Parents need to build and maintain a whole suite of disciplinary tools that can be used for various situations, suggest educators and family therapists at the Child Welfare League of America. One size does not fit all. Consider creative ways to discipline children that promote responsibility, positive behavior and self-control.
Ignore the Behavior
Many children exhibit bad behavior to get attention, and the technique often works. They get the attention they crave, and parents often exacerbate the problem by continuing to give the majority of their attention to ill behavior. Instead, consider completely ignoring bad behavior by not responding to it in any way. Don't acknowledge the child when he is acting up. Employ this tactic in response to those behaviors that do not disturb others or that don't bring harm to the child or anyone else, and be consistent. If you ignore the behavior once but respond the next time, the child may think he only needs try harder to get your attention. Once the behavior stops, recognize the child, and compliment him on his improved behavior.
Offer Rewards
Researchers at the Child Welfare League of America report that too often parents don't think of rewards or praise as discipline techniques when they can make effective positive discipline tools. A reward system allows for a wide range of creative options. Rewards don't always have to include large gifts, although a toy or trip may be a long-term goal. Consider keeping track of behavior on charts upon which children receive stars when they brush their teeth or go to bed without fussing. Additional stars can be rewarded for cleaning up toys or doing chores in a timely manner. When the child has accumulated 10 or 12 stars, offer the prize.
Speak Softly
Doctors at Advanced Pediatric Associates report that children become immured to yelling and screaming: The more it's done, the less effective it becomes. Yelling also teaches disrespect and provides very little value in long-term discipline education. Instead of setting up a scenario in which your child tunes you out when you yell, consider changing your own behavior and the tone of your voice. Give children advance notice of expectations. Set a timer when it's time to leave a play situation or go to bed. Get the child involved in the setting and maintaining of the timer. Start walking, and your child usually will follow when you're out in public. Use hand signals, or try whispering. Children usually stop and listen carefully when you speak softly.
