Actor and comedian Patton Oswalt paid tribute to his late wife, true-crime author Michelle McNamara, in a lengthy and touching Facebook post on Monday.
"Thanks, grief," Oswalt began. "Thanks for making depression look like the buzzing little bully it always was. Depression is the tallest kid in the 4th grade, dinging rubber bands off the back of your head and feeling safe on the playground, knowing that no teacher is coming to help you.
"But grief? Grief is Jason Statham holding that 4th grade bully's head in a toilet... Grief makes depression cower behind you and apologize for being such a dick," The King of Queens actor wrote.
McNamara unexpectedly died in her sleep April 21 at age 46, causing a ripple of shock through the entertainment community. The founder of website True Crime Diary had no known illnesses. She is survived by Oswalt and their 7-year-old daughter Alice.
Oswalt penned his reflection on grieving 102 days after his wife's death, lamenting the emptiness the process brings. But then he offered readers a ray of hope.
"But 102 days at the mercy of grief and loss feels like 102 years..." Oswalt wrote. "You will not be physically healthier. You will not feel 'wiser.' You will not have 'closure.' You will not have 'perspective' or 'resilience' or 'a new sense of self.'
"You WILL have solid knowledge of fear, exhaustion and a new appreciation for the randomness and horror of the universe. And you'll also realize that 102 days is nothing but a warm-up for things to come.
"And..." he continued. "You will have been shown new levels of humanity and grace and intelligence by your family and friends. They will show up for you, physically and emotionally, in ways which make you take careful note, and say to yourself, 'Make sure to try to do that for someone else someday.'"
Read the full text of Oswalt's post on his Facebook profile.
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