Some people are prone to a dependence upon substances, other people or specific things. When a dependence occurs, this is often termed as the person having an addictive personality. Addictive personality is not a diagnosed personality disorder, according to the American Psychological Association, but it is common enough to warrant a grouping of certain characteristics that exist in people who display addictive personality traits.
Poor Stress Management
The inability to manage normal life stress or have poor stress management skills is a common characteristic of the addictive personality. Due to the lack of healthy coping skills, the addictive personality is prone toward substance abuse to manage his emotional discomfort. The use of substances such as drugs and alcohol further perpetuate the dependence of the person upon external factors to provide a false sense of worth in his world. Although the addictive personality is aware the false worth exists, this doesn't override the urge to get a feeling of worth in any way it can be achieved.
Instant Gratification
The addictive personality focuses on the here and now. This makes setting long-term goals virtually impossible. The need for immediate gratification is often overwhelming and the addictive personality typically displays impulsive and risky behavior to achieve a sense of sensation, pleasure or reward. With instant gratification often comes compulsive behaviors to maintain a sense of power over the decisions made in life. The compulsions and need for gratification often come in the form of substance use, sex, gambling or obsession with another person.
Lack of Intimacy
The addictive personality has trouble relating to others in a healthy manner that would lead to a mutually supportive relationship. Lack of intimacy comes from isolation and alienation from people the addictive personality perceives as unattainable in her life. This often leads to behaviors of non-conformity, rebellion and superficial relationships that are brief and full of emotional turmoil. The lack of healthy intimate connections lends itself to ongoing addictions with abusive or substance dependent companions.
