There are a number of discipline techniques that parents can use, ranging from time-out to serious conversations. Ultimately, discipline is most effective when children learn not to repeat the same mistakes. While various methods may be more effective for some children than others, a key component in effective discipline is consistency.
Teaching
Doctors at Keep Kids Healthy report that discipline should be viewed more as an opportunity for teaching children right from wrong than as a form of punishment. When correcting children, explain about respect and how it applies to others' time, feelings and property. Educate children about family and society rules and behaviors that are acceptable and unacceptable so they can learn how to make their own decisions and apply self-discipline based on their education. Teaching through example is one of the best ways to demonstrate proper ways to behave.
Rewards
Approach positive discipline by incorporating a rewards system for good behavior. If children know they will get to have a treat or go out to the park if they don't fight with their siblings or if they pick up their toys, they are more inclined to behave within your boundaries. Bribes, on the other hand, are rewards that are given to children before they do something positive and can eventually lead to additional discipline problems. Techniques such as a giving a weekly allowance or providing computer privileges are good forms of rewards that can be incorporated into this style of discipline.
Consequences
Punishment should be age-appropriate. A two-minute time-out for a toddler can be excruciating and give him a good reason not to repeat the behavior that got him the lonely seat in the corner. A time-out for a teen is more like a reward when he can be allowed to get away from you and your rules. Taking away privileges, however, can be an effective punishment for older children. Video games, telephones, televisions and outings are perks that you can take away from children in order to drive home a lesson about consequences.
Allow children to experience consequences outside of the home, as well. For example, if they don't finish a school project on time, don't punish them and finish it for them. Instead allow them to feel the wrath of the teacher and receive a bad grade.
Talking
Early childhood educators at Iowa State University report that talking to children and employing active listening skills can be effective discipline tools. Ask children why they acted a certain way or why they continue to fight or misbehave. Active listening gives parents a way to repeat back to the child what is said and try to help the child find other solutions to his behavior. Sharing personal experiences also can prove useful in the talking process. Talking may take longer with younger children, who still have limited problem-solving skills, but it can start them in the habit of thinking before acting out. Older children respond better to talking and appreciate the time parents take to understand their feelings rather than just reacting and yelling.
