No matter how tactful you are, discussing body odor can bring about pain or embarrassment for your spouse. Still, your partner will most likely want to know if he's having problems with body odor, especially if he's unaware of it. Be supportive and understanding and let your spouse know that you're not trying to be mean or hurt his feelings.
Step 1
Choose the right time. Don't bring the issue up during dinner, when there are other people around, or if your spouse is having a particularly bad day. Look for a quiet time when you can both sit in private to discuss things calmly and without interruptions.
Step 2
Try to figure out the reasons for the odor, especially if it's something recent, rather than an ongoing problem. This will help you approach the conversation better and offer solutions. Try to figure out changes in diet or activity level, whether a medication may be involved, or if your spouse is feeling sick or is under stress. All these things can cause a change in body odor.
Step 3
Explain the problem in a few words and be direct. Don't make things bigger than they are. Mention that you've noticed that his body odor has increased recently and what you think might be causing it. If your partner becomes defensive or upset, don't get into a fight.
Step 4
Focus on the issue at hand but take the blame off the person. Mention the body odor and then move on to the solution. Tell your spouse that you're mentioning it so you can help fix the problem and that this has nothing to do with your feelings for him or your relationship.
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