5 Ways to Deal with Impotence in a Dating Relationship

1. Understand Your Impotence

If you're experiencing erectile dysfunction, the first thing you need to do is see your doctor. That way, he can help you determine what's causing it. As the saying goes, knowledge is power, and there will be no hope of correcting impotence if you don't know what's triggering it.

2. Be Upfront

Men who can't talk to their partners about erectile dysfunction often end up feeling angry and resentful, which can make the problem worse. While you don't have to blurt it out the minute you meet someone, you will be more comfortable with your date once you talk to her about any bedroom issues. Taking someone out to dinner does not mean full disclosure, either. Unless your every first date ends with a sleepover, there's no need to discuss erectile dysfunction right away. Take your time, enjoy yourself and get to know your date.

3. Take Things at Your Own Pace

Decide how quickly or slowly you want physical intimacy to progress, and don't be embarrassed. Going slowly almost always works in your favor, because it allows time to strengthen your bond and get to know each other better.

By the same token, don't be afraid of intimacy. Kissing and hand-holding do not signal that the next stop is the bedroom. So relax and go with it. Touching, hugging and cuddling establish closeness and trust, and help a woman get to know you.

4. Create a Game Plan

Talking to your date about erectile dysfunction isn't easy, but you can make it more comfortable by preparing. As silly as it may sound, plan it the way you might get ready for a big presentation or job interview. Practice what you're going to say. You don't have to write out a speech, but jot down some notes and then try out different ways of saying it. You might think that practicing will only make you more nervous. But if you do it enough times, you will eventually get past the anxiety.

Next, choose a time to talk to your date about your impotence. Take her someplace quiet, where you both can discuss it openly. Sharing your feelings about impotence will likely strengthen your new relationship. Remember, intimacy comes not just from sex, but from opening up to your partner.

5. Concentrate on Your Partner

Stop thinking about sex as a track-and-field event. You are not there to prove your manliness nor impress her with your staying power. For men, sexual intercourse almost always results in an orgasm, but women aren't nearly as lucky. So your date is going to understand more than you think. Instead, concentrate on pleasuring your date. A woman can't resist a man who cares about making her climax. And taking the attention and pressure off yourself may be all you need to get back in the game.