1. Go at Your Own Pace
Premature ejaculation occurs in as much as 1/3 of the male population. It is a common and treatable condition that can be caused by biological or psychological issues. When engaging in sexual intercourse, work with your partner, but be sure to go at your own pace. Engaging in a short period of foreplay could help increase the length of time you can go without ejaculating. Thrust slowly and lightly, and pause every few moments to lessen the intensity.
2. Keep Things Dull
If you're experiencing sensory overload during intercourse, try tactics to dull the sensation. Over-the-counter numbing agents and desensitizers can help prevent premature ejaculation as well. Topical anesthetics containing lidocaine or prilocaine come in spray and cream form, and condoms with anesthetics are also available.
Alcohol can depress the central nervous system and desensitize the penis. But it is by no means an aphrodisiac, so do not use it if you have any trouble getting an erection. Otherwise, you can try experimenting with a glass or two of beer or wine.
3. Play Mind Games
Think about baseball. Distract yourself from sexually explicit thoughts by turning your mind to less arousing subjects. You can improve your control by practicing mind-body techniques. Mind-body medicine uses the power of thoughts and emotions to influence the body. Studies have shown that practicing mind-body techniques such as yoga can be an effective treatment for stopping premature ejaculation.
4. Try the Squeeze Technique
Some sexual therapists recommend practicing what's known as the squeeze technique to learn how to control ejaculation. It can take dozens of tries to get it right, but with continued practice, you should see an improvement in your ability to control ejaculation. Try to do this three times a week.
1. Stimulate your genital area as usual until you achieve a high state of arousal.
2. When you feel almost ready to ejaculate, you or your partner should squeeze the penis, just below the glans (where the head meets the shaft). If you have a foreskin, pull it back so the glans is uncovered. Squeeze for several seconds until the urge to ejaculate has passed.
3. After 30 seconds, resume stimulation of the penis. When you're almost ready to ejaculate, again squeeze the penis. Repeat this process three times; then, on the fourth, allow yourself to come.
5. Consider Antidepressants
No, we're not saying you're clinically depressed. Delayed ejaculation is a side effect of a certain type of depression medications called SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), such as sertraline, paroxetine and fluoxetine. Many doctors prescribe them in small doses to help men who are experiencing premature ejaculation. Taking them once, a few hours before intimacy, is sometimes all you need. Talk to your doctor to determine your best course of treatment for stopping premature ejaculation.
