The challenges parenting brings can sometimes be confusing. As your child grows and her personality and self develop, changes in behavior may cause you to question what is normal and what your role as a parent is in her life. Being prepared and educating yourself on child behavior will help make parenting more enjoyable for both you and your child.
What Is Normal?
Each child is individual and presents a unique personality to the world. Avoid stereotyping your child, and instead respect him as his own person. Additionally, the American Academy of Family Physicians states that "normal" behavior also depends on age and development. With these concepts in mind, however, remember that there are boundaries for acceptable behavior. Harming other people, animals or property is not normal behavior. Within reasonable expectations, your child should respond to you and understand the concept of obedience.
Changing Behavior
Children need encouragement and guidance in order to develop good behavior. Avoid overloading your child with rules, especially if she is young, and focus on small behavioral achievements. The University of Michigan Health System recommends picking your child's most disruptive or dangerous behaviors and working with her to modify only one or two behaviors at a given time. Work within realistic expectations. Understand what your toddler or school-aged child is capable of understanding and learning, and adjust your parenting to these parameters.
Consequences
The University of Michigan Health System states that there must be simple rules and consequences that come from breaking these rules. Make sure your child understands what is expected of him, and be consistent in providing consequences. The American Academy of Family Physicians suggests time-out as an effective consequence.
Rewards
B sure to reward your child for good behavior. This will encourage personal motivation in your child and a desire to do what is right. Rewards include stickers, praise, a fun activity, a small toy or tokens that can be collected and put towards a larger reward. As with all other aspects of child behavior, your child's age and developmental level must be taken into account when planning consequences and rewards.
Your Relationship
It's essential that your child is sure of your love for her. Go out of your way to express this in notes, words, actions or special time together. The Mayo Clinic states that a parent's love is the most important element in training children. Never discipline your child in anger, and set a good example by admitting when you are wrong.
