Narcissistic personality disorder is a psychological condition in which a person behaves in ways that interfere with successful interpersonal relationships. Like all personality disorders, it is difficult to treat and is considered permanent in most cases. The characteristics may become less prominent as the person ages. The person who suffers from narcissistic personality disorder has a fragile self-esteem and poor self-worth that he masks by projecting a sense of importance and entitlement.
Seeks to Impress Others
The narcissist believes that his worth is dependent on what others think of his accomplishments. He seems to have no insight into his own worth and only sees his accomplishments through the eyes of others. He is commonly a braggart who seeks to impress those around him with his material belongings, looks or intelligence; in this manner, he can find the relief of knowing he is successful. The narcissist seeks recognition, awards and photo opportunities more than the general population.
Idolizes, then Devalues Others
The narcissist typically goes through a honeymoon period with a new person she meets, whether a friend or a romantic partner. During this time, she idolizes the person, speaking well of him and attempting to impress him. If this person does not give her continual praise, he risks becoming devalued and harshly criticized. The narcissist experiencing a divorce often attacks the character of her spouse repeatedly, to ensure that others understand the spouse is "worthless."
Lacks Empathy
The Mayo Clinic describes the narcissist as someone who fails to acknowledge the feelings of others. He seems to lack the capacity to truly care about the sufferings of those around him. In fact, the problems of others---such as a wife with cancer---are often seen as obstacles to him getting the attention he craves.
Easily Offended
The person with narcissistic personality disorder is easy to take offense when none is intended. She may be offended when she is not picked for recognition at work and may overreact by quitting or badmouthing her boss behind his back. She may become offended to learn that one of her friends went shopping with another friend instead of her.
Ruthless Competitor
The narcissist is a ruthless competitor when an accomplishment is important to her. The Cleveland Clinic explains that a person with this disorder may take advantage of the kindness or weakness of others to meet her goals. Winning brings gloating while losing brings unbridled rage. Occasionally, a narcissist will become severely depressed when unable to defeat the competition.
References
- "Psychiatric Mental Health Nursing: Concepts of Care in Evidence-Based Practice;" Mary C. Townsend, M.N., A.P.R.N.; 2006
- Mayo Clinic: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Cleveland Clinic: Narcissistic Personality Disorder
