Late nights at the office, mysterious telephone calls and suspicious expenditures can be signs that your girlfriend is cheating on you. Cheaters may not admit to infidelity if confronted, leaving you feeling confused and angry. Looking for the signs of cheating and conducting your own investigation can help you decide if your suspicions are warranted.
Telephone and Internet Clues
Telephone records provide information about who your girlfriend is calling or texting. Depending on your phone provider, you may be able to check the call log online. If you have access to her cell phone, you can also check the call log on the phone.
Repeated calls to unfamiliar numbers are suspicious. You can determine whose phone number your girlfriend is calling by using a reverse directory website or by calling the number without identifying yourself. If you call the number, don't use your own phone, as you may be discovered through caller identification.
Check your girlfriend's Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking accounts. While it would seem foolish to share information about a new love on such public sites, you may be surprised by the clues you find about your girlfriend's activities.
Bills
People involved in new relationships tend to spend money on gifts, restaurants and hotel rooms. If you have joint credit card or bank accounts, check paper or online statements for evidence of these expenditures. Paper receipts may be found in purses, pockets or glove compartments.
Activities
Cheaters find excuses to avoid being at home. Your girlfriend may suddenly seem to be swamped at work. She may start going out of town for business and seminars, even though she never attended these kinds of events in the past. She may start spending more time with friends or claim she is going out with a new friend you have never met. You may find it impossible to contact her while she's away, or she may not be where she says she will be. Infidelity.com recommends keeping a journal of your findings and suspicions to help you identify patterns of behavior.
Behavior
Although some people can manage two relationships with ease, it may be difficult for your girlfriend to continue to lie to you. The stress of juggling both you and her new lover may be evident in her behavior. Your girlfriend may seem distant, be less affectionate and lose interest in sex. She may be defensive when you ask innocent questions about her schedule and may pick fights with you. Cheaters may start finding fault with everything you do to justify the affair in their minds, according to Womansaver.com.
You may notice that your girlfriend abruptly ends telephone conversations when you walk into the room or shuts down the computer. She may begin making telephone calls or using the computer in the middle of the night, when she thinks you are asleep.
A sudden interest in appearance can also be a sign that your girlfriend is seeing someone else. Choosing a new hairstyle, dieting, exercising and wearing a different style of clothing may occur when a cheating girlfriend is trying to impress a new romantic interest. If your girlfriend is showering at the lover's home, she may come home smelling different due to using other brands of soap and shampoo.
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