The Female Hymen
Overview
A common misconception about the hymen is that it is inside the vagina. It is actually a mucous membrane that is part of the vulva, the external genital organs. It is formed from a layer of tissue that develops in the early stages of fetal development when there is no opening in the vagina at all. This thin layer of tissue conceals the vagina but usually divides incompletely prior to birth, forming the hymen.
Sometimes this formation of an opening does not occur and results in a hymen that lacks the more common opening. Some females have no hymen at birth at all, since the tissue divided completely while they were still in the womb. The size and shape of this opening (or openings) varies greatly from person to person.
The hymen is also not an indicator of virginity. The tissues of the vulva are generally very thin and delicate prior to puberty, so many girls and teens tear or dilate their hymen while participating in sports like bicycling, horseback riding, gymnastics or while inserting tampons. A girl may not even know this has occurred, since there may be little or no blood or pain involved when this happens. Remnants of the hymen are usually still present until a woman delivers a baby vaginally.
Member Comments
by asaipadaovian on October 9, 2008 at 9:30 AM
Hi
Will the tearing impact of the sports activities be equalant to the penetration of the 1 and half or more inch wide shaft's impact?
Considering the truth that, many years long used hymen it self is closed after some years of rest, and it is
bleeding again when a new penetration happens. Sports impact occurred on hymen is due to the shacking
of the flesh surrounded by the vagina. But when a 2 inch wide organ penetrates, tearing impact would be
more than that. So even a sports woman would bleed at first penetration.
This is my opinion I got, based on my experience. I am a lay man. Some body please give me an
explanation whether I am right or wrong.
by Sanssouci on November 22, 2008 at 7:42 PM
It sounds like you're asking whether a woman would bleed her first time having sex even if she is physically active? Well, the answer to that is "not usually." If a woman is in the mood and well lubricated, she probably won't experience pain or bleeding her first time having sex. The vagina can stretch quite a bit, and the hymen is usually torn by the time a woman first has sex due to running, jumping, masturbating, etc., often with little or no pain or blood anyway. So pain and bleeding during sex are usually due to not enough lubrication rather than to the hymen tearing. But pain and bleeding can both be signs of gynecological issues too, so women should let their ob-gyns know if they experience either one during sex.
by AnonyMuse on December 20, 2008 at 9:21 PM
I am a married woman, born in the mid-1970s. I'd never heard of the hymen until I was in my early 20s, some years before I'd first had vaginal intercourse. Nobody ever told me that intercourse could be painful, and I never expected it to be, and it never was, so frankly, I don't see what the fuss is about. This seems like an emperor with no clothes, and suddenly everyone is pretending that painful bleeding during sex is normal, when it is perverse and strange.
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:21 PM
It is not perverse or strange. Everyone is different. Just because you didn't feel pain and don't think you had a hymen it doesn't mean other people didnt.
by dghdjffj on January 12, 2009 at 2:01 AM
i just found out what geting your chery poped ment and i dont get why the other girls are so woried about ?
by dghdjffj on January 12, 2009 at 2:02 AM
i agrie
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:20 PM
Many people fear new things and for some people they do experience pain when having their "cherry popped". So, I am sure many young girls have heard horror stories.
by AnonyMuse on January 15, 2009 at 8:58 PM
I have one sister who remembers pain while inserting her first tampon, but that's all. I was never an active person until I hit 30, and I did not masturbate until after I had tried vaginal intercourse (which was not painful or bloody), and I wasn't even especially interested in exploring my genitals, so I don't believe that I ever had a hymen. Frankly, I think this hymen thing is a freaking hoax -- something invented by men who are interested in punishing women for something, anything.
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:19 PM
Definitely not a hoax. Hymens are real. I hardly see how it is punishing for women to have one. Hymens are there to help protect the womb from bacteria. Look things up before you assume they aren't real.
by O12345 on January 26, 2009 at 3:13 PM
The top part of the hymen that is left after it's broken that's still attached to the skin between the labia minora was ripped off a little, and is still kind of hanging on. It's not really painful unless I walk, but it's also kind of itchy and there's a lot of yellow discharge.
I was wondering if anyone has had this happen to them before and how long the healing process was/what happened.
by TeenVoice on February 6, 2009 at 10:07 AM
When your in your teens and you expiernce intercorse for the first time alot of people(females) report bleeding a little. Which is considered getting your cherry popped. Even boys say I popped her cherry on the first try. So I believe that it is common for women to bleed on their first time and some may not do to whatever reason. I don`t know but I`m not a doctor. They also reported that if you take a shower the bleeding will stop after a short period of time.
How long should a girl bleed normally after her first sexual intercourse?
by amother on March 9, 2009 at 11:43 PM
This varies from person to person however the best person to talk to is your mother as you will be most like her in this aspect and she could advise you best.
by Tink4lyfe on February 10, 2009 at 4:38 PM
OK here's the deal this one day I was curious to see if fingering WAS truly pleasurable (so i tried it). Then I got my period(for the first time) maybe a week or 2 later. I was on what I thought was my period for 6 days. I am now currently on what I am doubting is my period. There is practically no blood wen I "drip" and but instead it comes out a brown faint color. Did I just brake my hymen and not get my real period?
by Xpeace_offX on April 13, 2009 at 12:37 AM
your prolly on ur period, it is different 4 different girls, my first period was really weird, it started normal then by the 3rd day it was dark like urs my mom just said you have to clean it well and often in the shower. and u will b ok. but, it takes up to a year for most girl's periods to even out. i took about a year and a half. but im regular now :D
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:18 PM
You will usually start with a brownish color and end with it. This is called "old blood" and the bright red color in between is called "new blood". It is completely normal. This is your real period. It sounds exactly like new periods are.
by AnonymousMan on March 2, 2009 at 9:43 AM
My girlfriend was a virgin when we first met. Her first time was when we almost had intercourse one night but I only penetrated her partially before she had second thoughts and wanted to stop. It wasn't until the next day, upon waking up and going to the restroom, that I noticed I had dried up blood all over the bottom of my penis. After she had gone to the restroom also I asked her if she'd noticed anything, and she responded ' yeah, I bled.' Sex for her is still painful even today however, years later, if we go too long without having it. I'm not sure why, but I've pretty much always been told by girls I've been with that I have a large penis. So, perhaps it has nothing to do with her.
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:17 PM
She might be small or you might be big (as you say) or both. The reason it is easier if you do it more often is because that keeps her stretched. When a women goes for a long time without sex she shrinks back. After a couple years women often return to a virgin's tightness. But our vaginas are meant to be stretched and are very elastic. Try fingering her first to get her prepared that should help.
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:52 AM
The whole "sex stretches the vagina out" thing is a myth. The average vagina can handle the average penis just fine. And the average vagina is incredibly elastic, so it will temporarily stretch to accommodate a penis then snap right back to original size after.
Having a baby, on the other hand, can permanently and noticeably stretch the vagina out. That's why women have to get a different size diaphragm or DivaCup if they give birth vaginally but not if they have a lot of sex.
Sounds like your partner probably has issues with dryness. When a vagina is dry, it can feel very tight. But that same vagina can feel very loose when well lubricated!
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_can_vaginas_not_vary_much_in_size_for_real
by jen18 on April 5, 2009 at 7:50 AM
Does masturbation cause harm to your health specially when your still virgin??Give me some tips plss....
by trinity_wolf on April 17, 2009 at 11:29 PM
i have looked into masturbation, and no it doesnt. depending on what exactly you do. i guess if you use dildos or fnger you could get like a yeast iinfection?(germs on the dildo or finger) but stimulating the clitoris i dont think anything bad would happen. nothing has happened to me and ive been doing it for a while
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:15 PM
Masturbation has actually been proven to be good for your sexual health.
by PR1NC355 on April 13, 2009 at 7:22 PM
I've had my period for eight days now. The blood has slowed and now a brown-ish discharge continues to come out sometimes with a little bit of blood. I'm not sure what's going on and I'm afraid to ask anyone in my family as I don't want them to freak out and have me get examined. What could be the cause of this?
by trinity_wolf on April 17, 2009 at 11:24 PM
when your period is coming to an end it almost always(for me at least) turns an ugly brownish color. but thats completly normal! no need to worry at all, it just prtty much indicates your period will be done soon.
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:15 PM
You will usually start with a brownish color and end with it. This is called "old blood" and the bright red color in between is called "new blood". It is completely normal.
by crestfallen on April 23, 2009 at 10:30 AM
hay i hv a problem of my labia minora mine r too big is it normal? i m so much worried abt it. my boy friend wants to sex but i ..... and i m stiil virgin. help me .
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:53 AM
Yes that is normal, our body parts all vary in size.
by wnlee on April 29, 2009 at 7:22 PM
umm i have a problem im a virgin but i enjoy letting my b/f finger me.... but because it used to hurt really bad i never let him use two fingers... i got used to it and then one day he did it and i think he popped my cherry but this has happened twice now im not sure if he only tore the skin a little and not enough to actually pop it or if he might have scatched me or somthing worse i mean it doesnt hurt its just really acward and it worries me and him im not really sure what to do....
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:14 PM
Sounds like your hymen was only partially broken the first time. I wouldn't worry about it.
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:56 AM
Yes, it's possible that your hymen tore a little last time and a little this time. But bleeding is more likely to be caused by little rips and tears in the vaginal tissue. So you were probably too dry, or he was too rough, or he scratched you with a fingernail. Those little rips usually heal just fine on their own, but they can also leave you vulnerable to infection, so make sure you see an ob-gyn if you notice any unusual symptoms.
by why_meee_180 on May 10, 2009 at 11:30 PM
hi, im a virgin and i have been told by a doctor that i have a constricted hymen. i am not completely sure what this means; does it mean i can not have sex? please let me know, im quite confused..
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:13 PM
See my post below.
by KitKatKaity on May 12, 2009 at 7:13 PM
The hymen is by no means a hoax. Some people have them and some are born without them. I myself lost mine when I first inserted a tampon. There was a little bit of pain and a little bleeding.
When you get your periods you will usually start with a brownish color blood called "old blood" and end with that color as well. In between you will most likely see a brighter red color. This is normal.
You can still have sex with a constricted hymen. It may cause a little more pain your first time but if you take it slow and make sure you are properly prepared you will be fine. You will most likely be sore afterwards but if you take hot baths it will ease.
by Unknown141 on May 18, 2009 at 6:57 PM
I was fingered and i felt a sharp pain and i bled alittle did my hymen rip i am nervous does this mean my vagina is no longer "tight" i am still a virgin i am nervous
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:57 AM
Your vagina is the same size now as it was before you got fingered. The vagina can stretch a lot and then snap right back into place after.
by cheeka114 on May 20, 2009 at 8:35 PM
i don't even no if my hymen broke or not how can you tell?
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:58 AM
You can get a mirror and look for your hymen. But it might be a bit difficult if you're not sure exactly what to look for. You can also ask your doctor about it. The hymen doesn't actually do anything anyway though, so I wouldn't bother worrying about whether yours is intact or not.
by Nozaku on June 8, 2009 at 10:23 PM
I'm currently in a delicate situation with my boyfriend and parents. I am ready to have sexual intercourse with my boyfriend, but though I'm 20 years old, my parents are still very restrictive. I will be visiting the same OB/GYN as my mother; this OB/GYN is a family friend and, though it is illegal, I fear she may tell my mother that I am no longer a virgin once she sees that my hymen is broken. So I'm trying to come up with a cover story; I know it's wrong to lie to them but they are extremely traditional, unaccepting of change, and racists to boot (my boyfriend is not of our race).
So I have two questions:
1) Is it true some girls are born without a hymen?
2) I take riding lessons and have been trotting lately. If a girl's hymen breaks during physical activity, is there any bleeding?
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 11:04 AM
Yes, some girls are born without a hymen. The hymen doesn't have anything to do with virginity though, so I don't think you have anything to worry about. Most hymens are very thin and delicate. So they usually tear long before a girl has sex from things like masturbation, manual sex, and riding lessons! Sometimes there is pain and blood, and sometimes there is now. That means many girls tear their hymen without even realizing it. So unless you have an unusually thick hymen, yours is probably torn already. And that means your ob-gyn won't know whether or not you're having sex just by looking at your hymen. But it is best to be honest with your ob-gyn so you can give you paps and birth control as needed. If being honest with her is an issue you could try a different doctor. But she really should keep her mouth shut anyway, after all her job depends on it.
by woops on June 11, 2009 at 6:25 AM
hey guys, it's a pity that many haven't really know about the hymen and vagina anatomy, after reading all these posts by you guys.i'm no doctor or what, but i've came to know about the hymen and cherry popping tale a long time ago. this is extracted from a webpage:here are many myths and misunderstanding about "virginity". The best definition of a virgin is a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. In most cases, having intercourse does not change a woman's vagina. With very few exceptions, even a Doctor cannot tell whether or not a woman is a virgin by examining her vagina and pelvic organs. Neither is the vagina altered by use of a tampon, INSTEAD™ Softcup™, or other vaginal device.
The "hymen" is a ring of tissue that surrounds the vaginal opening. When you examine yourself with a mirror, the hymen will appear as irregular flaps of tissue surrounding the opening. Almost all infant girls are born with an open hymen, which remains open throughout their lives. In fact only a VERY FEW female infant are born with an "intact" (imperforate) hymen, that is, the hymen actually covers the vaginal opening. But even in these cases, the hymen generally opens on its own before puberty. This is the source of many myths about virginity, and about how the penis must "break" the hymen of a virgin.
Fortunately, the intact (imperforate) hymen is extremely rare by the time a girl reaches puberty, and is considered an abnormality because it will not allow a normal menses. At menarche (when periods begin), menstrual fluid backs up behind the intact hymen and cannot flow out. This condition is very uncomfortable and requires a minor surgical procedure to open the hymen. So if you have normal menstrual flow, you have a normal, open, hymen.
yup, this actually the case.and this extract was from www.softcup-asia.com,where claims are substantiated by scientific research and professors.
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by woops on June 11, 2009 at 6:26 AM
hey guys, it's a pity that many haven't really know about the hymen and vagina anatomy, after reading all these posts by you guys.i'm no doctor or what, but i've came to know about the hymen and cherry popping tale a long time ago. this is extracted from a webpage:here are many myths and misunderstanding about "virginity". The best definition of a virgin is a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. In most cases, having intercourse does not change a woman's vagina. With very few exceptions, even a Doctor cannot tell whether or not a woman is a virgin by examining her vagina and pelvic organs. Neither is the vagina altered by use of a tampon, INSTEAD™ Softcup™, or other vaginal device.
The "hymen" is a ring of tissue that surrounds the vaginal opening. When you examine yourself with a mirror, the hymen will appear as irregular flaps of tissue surrounding the opening. Almost all infant girls are born with an open hymen, which remains open throughout their lives. In fact only a VERY FEW female infant are born with an "intact" (imperforate) hymen, that is, the hymen actually covers the vaginal opening. But even in these cases, the hymen generally opens on its own before puberty. This is the source of many myths about virginity, and about how the penis must "break" the hymen of a virgin.
Fortunately, the intact (imperforate) hymen is extremely rare by the time a girl reaches puberty, and is considered an abnormality because it will not allow a normal menses. At menarche (when periods begin), menstrual fluid backs up behind the intact hymen and cannot flow out. This condition is very uncomfortable and requires a minor surgical procedure to open the hymen. So if you have normal menstrual flow, you have a normal, open, hymen.
yup, this actually the case.and this extract was from www.softcup-asia.com,where claims are substantiated by scientific research and professors.
(a great deal for women to visit that web too!)
by woops on June 11, 2009 at 6:26 AM
hey guys, it's a pity that many haven't really know about the hymen and vagina anatomy, after reading all these posts by you guys.i'm no doctor or what, but i've came to know about the hymen and cherry popping tale a long time ago. this is extracted from a webpage:here are many myths and misunderstanding about "virginity". The best definition of a virgin is a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. In most cases, having intercourse does not change a woman's vagina. With very few exceptions, even a Doctor cannot tell whether or not a woman is a virgin by examining her vagina and pelvic organs. Neither is the vagina altered by use of a tampon, INSTEAD™ Softcup™, or other vaginal device.
The "hymen" is a ring of tissue that surrounds the vaginal opening. When you examine yourself with a mirror, the hymen will appear as irregular flaps of tissue surrounding the opening. Almost all infant girls are born with an open hymen, which remains open throughout their lives. In fact only a VERY FEW female infant are born with an "intact" (imperforate) hymen, that is, the hymen actually covers the vaginal opening. But even in these cases, the hymen generally opens on its own before puberty. This is the source of many myths about virginity, and about how the penis must "break" the hymen of a virgin.
Fortunately, the intact (imperforate) hymen is extremely rare by the time a girl reaches puberty, and is considered an abnormality because it will not allow a normal menses. At menarche (when periods begin), menstrual fluid backs up behind the intact hymen and cannot flow out. This condition is very uncomfortable and requires a minor surgical procedure to open the hymen. So if you have normal menstrual flow, you have a normal, open, hymen.
yup, this actually the case.and this extract was from www.softcup-asia.com,where claims are substantiated by scientific research and professors.
(a great deal for women to visit that web too!)
by FoxyMiam on June 24, 2009 at 5:09 PM
Does kicking in the vagina cause the hymen to be broken? when I was 10 years old (didn't hit puberty yet) i was fighting with my older sister and she kicked me then i screamed in pain, no blood was out though... and I sometimes rub my clit and insert the tip of my finger in me, and it never hurt... i tried using the tips of two fingers and it hurt so i pulled them out. i've never had an intercourse before but i was harrassed when I was younger by my uncle, a waitor, a grocery worker, and a family friend, they didnt rape me... only touching and feeling, but the family friend let me sit on his lap and he gave me money for it... I didnt know what was it because i was young but i felt wrong about them so i stopped doing it, and now i'm worried that i broke my hymen, i told my boyfriend that im a virgin and i told him about the harrassments, is it possible to know what type of hymen do i have?
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 11:07 AM
Yes, your hymen could be torn from that. Most hymens are very delicate, and girls today are quite active. So we usually tear our hymens in childhood or during puberty without even realizing it, often from things like masturbation, using tampons, and even lots of running and jumping.
by brovito11 on June 25, 2009 at 3:23 PM
So i let my boyfriend finger me and he popped my cherry on May 30th right after period ended. and i usually get it on the 23. but today is the 25 and im worried that something may have caused my period to be late. oh and im 16 and still a virgin. but is it possiable that i can pregnat? im not sure and i really dont wanna take a test. and i dont wanna go see a doctor. so if you guys could just help me out and give me some facts that would make me so happy. Oh and since im stressing right now,can that delay my period? i also have all the symptoms of getting it too. cramps,backaches.
by FoxyMiam on June 25, 2009 at 6:40 PM
You can get pregnant, but he only fingered you so there's no way sperm can get into your vagina from that so it means you arent pregnant, only if he had his penis inside you and came it means you can get pregnant, but it depends when, as in ur ovulating or no, and late periods are common, I'm 16 and my period is unstable, if you ARE pregnant you will miss your period, it wont be late.. you never get your period when you are pregnant actually. I think one of the things i said is incorrect so maybe one of the older women here can correct me.
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 11:09 AM
If no sperm got into your vagina than you cannot be pregnant. Late periods are very common, and yes, stress can make your period late. Cramps and backaches are symptoms of lots of things, including an oncoming period, so you might get it soon.
by LuxArumque on July 5, 2009 at 9:46 PM
So I recently lost my virginity, but there wasn't any pain or bleeding other than a slightly tight pain from my vagina stretching around his penis. However, last night we started to have sex again and I felt something tear and begin bleeding. I checked a mirror today after giving myself a chance to heal a bit, and I think I tore my hymen, but I'm not sure because the tear is closer to the outside by the labia, rather than by my vaginal opening. Is it normal for me to tear like that, especially if I may not have been lubricated enough?
by LuxArumque on July 5, 2009 at 9:47 PM
Also, would the area that was torn still be considered my hymen?
by Sanssouci on July 7, 2009 at 12:15 PM
Tearing is very common when a woman is too dry. Even women with a lot of sexual experience can experience pain and bleeding if they try to have sex when they're dry. If you think you might have been too dry, try foreplay or a water-based lubricant.
It's difficult for us to say for sure what tore and why with only a written description to go by. If you're really curious, you can ask an ob-gyn to give you more information. But personally, I wouldn't worry about it. The hymen doesn't do anything anyway, so how it tore, when it tore, and where it tore doesn't matter much!
by avionne on July 5, 2009 at 10:09 PM
hey i lost my virginity 2 years ago and it did not hurt or anything.took a while to go though. Now when i have sex it takes a while before anything can go in and i feel like i am a virgin all over again.It does not go in easy and it hurts if i dont go verrry slow.But after it first goes in it goes in easily afterwards. Also after a few minutes i have to stop because the opening of my vagina hurts as if there was a bruise. One time after intercourse i examined myself by lookin in a mirror and saw a blister/bruise on the perineum or the vagina opening but it only happens and i only see the bruise wen i have intercourse. Please help i dont kno why this is happening and i feel like i cannot have sex and i usually break down crying wen it happens(which i everytime i have sex) because it hurts and i dont kno why it happens and because i cant enjoy sex because i have to stop.. my boyfriend is very supportive though and does not mind
by Sanssouci on July 7, 2009 at 12:08 PM
The pain you're feeling sounds like a lubrication issue. Try more foreplay, buy a water-based lubricant, and make sure you're relaxed before attempting sex. If that doesn't help, or if you keep getting blisters and bruises, talk to an ob-gyn about it.
by ManicWolf on July 19, 2009 at 9:34 AM
Ok, so basically I was wondering how tight is is normal to be for a virgin? Recently I have tried to see how much I could stretch myself, and I literally have trouble just getting 2 fingers all the way in there, is that normal tightness for a virgin? I can't imagine how anything bigger could fit when the time comes to have sex, so I'm worried that when the time does come it's going to hurt so much because of the tightness. Is this something to do with my hymen that's not torn properly, or is it just normal?
by Sanssouci on July 19, 2009 at 11:22 AM
The vagina can feel very tight or very loose. It does not matter how sexually experienced the woman is. It depends on how lubricated, relaxed, in the mood, and comfortable she is. When properly lubricated, relaxed, comfortable, and in the mood sex should not hurt for most women whether it's the first time or the 100th.
by katyin4 on July 28, 2009 at 1:50 AM
Hi
I have a lot of extra skin outside my vagina and it's in like a bunch I guess. Any idea what it is?
by motherndaughter on July 30, 2009 at 3:42 PM
Maybe it's your vagina lip's(Labia). But I'm not a Dr. So don't rely on just what I say. Look at pictures of a womans anotamy
by motherndaughter on July 30, 2009 at 3:40 PM
HI, MY DAUGHTER GOT HER PERIOD FOR THE FIRST TIME 3 1/2 WEEKS AGO. SHE'S 12 AND PETITE. SO, WE WENT TO CVS AND BOUGHT HER LOTS OF PADS, AND WIPES, AND A BOX OF SLENDER/LITE TAMPONS. SHE SAID SHE WASN'T READY TO TRY THE TAMPONS. BUT TODAY SHE GOT HER PERIOD AGAIN, AND WAS ASKED TO GO SWIMMING, SO SHE ASKED ME TO HELP HER TRY A TAMPON. SHE READ THE INSTRUCTIONS AND SO DID I ,EVEN THOUGH I USE THEM MY SELF.SHE PUT ONE LEG UP ON THE TUB, AND SHE COULD ONLY GET ABOUT ONE INCH IN,& FELT PAIN. SO I TOLD HER TO TRY LAYING ON HER BACK ON THE FLOOR (ON A TOWEL)WITH HER LEGS OPEN AS IF ABOUT TO GIVE BIRTH, WHEN SHE TRIED AGAIN, I COULDN'T EVEN SEE AN OPENING.I PUT LOTS OF STERILIZED LUBE FROM THE HOSPITAL ON IT FOR HER, BUT SHE COULDN'T GET IT IN. I TOLD HER TO FORGET IT, AND STOP TRYING. IS THAT NORMAL?? WHEN I WAS 13 I USED A TAMPON ON MY FIRST PERIOD, WHICH MY MOTHER INSERTED, I DIDN'T HAVE A PROBLEM EXCEPT IT WASN'T IN ALL THE WAY,AND FELT WEIRD. SHOULD'NT SHE BE ABLE TO INSERT A TAMPON WITHOUT PAIN??
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:27 PM
It's possible that she has a thick hymen or that she was just so nervous that her vagina was clenched shut. I had a lot of trouble inserting tampons at first too. You can take her to the ob-gyn to make sure, but she's probably fine.
by scaredbabe on August 4, 2009 at 5:13 AM
hey!m gettin married in eight months n m nt a virgin i dun want my husband to knw this.... is there a way that i can hide it... m really scared please help
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:30 PM
He won't know your sexual history unless you tell him. But you should tell him. If you're going to marry him, you really should be able to be honest about that sort of thing.
by whatisgoingon on August 5, 2009 at 1:01 AM
Hey. A while back I took horse back riding lessons. I was trotting for the first time and when I got back home my vagina felt sore and there was a VERY small amount of blood. It was fine within the week and I thought nothing of it. Did my hymen break? I can't tell at all. I don't even know what to look for.
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:31 PM
Yes, there is a good chance it tore.
by SourKandi on August 6, 2009 at 10:12 PM
Hey
Can you break your hymen while doing hip-hop dancing?
by 36accepted on September 3, 2009 at 9:59 AM
it could be possible considering the movements and stretching of sort
by anonymous79 on August 10, 2009 at 10:20 AM
A hymen is by no means a myth. I am in my early 30's and lost my virginity when I was 17 to a long term boyfriend. I vividly remember my first time and absolutely remember the pop and definitely had a bit of bleeding. It didn't hurt any more than a slight prick... no pun intended! And the blood was only as much as a REALLY light day period. There was no problem with lubrication as we both were ready and very excited. I was also not a lazy, couch potato as someone earlier suggested. I was, and still am very active in sports and dance. I have played soccer year round since I was 5 and was in dance from 8 to 18, so there were many times where I wondered prior to sex, if my hymen had already broken. I'd actively used tampons since the beginning of my first period at 13, and explored myself sexually (on my own and with other boyfriends). Some people may have had other experiences, but in my experience the hymen is positively real, and it doesn't matter if you're active or not. There my be instances where it breaks early but it's not a guarantee. It all depends on the person and the situation. If you're curious, take a mirror and look at yourself! Its good to know your own body!
by Ashler1999 on August 27, 2009 at 6:15 PM
I am so glad you posted. I was outraged at the post about being lazy etc. I too am in my early 30's. I lost my virginity a month before I turned 17 to a long term boyfriend. It was more painful for me, and more blood. I was in so much pain, I made him stop. The next day he informed me his underwear was soaked with blood, and mine was only a couple of smears. I was sore like heck for a week. Since every woman's body is different, there is no reason to place judgement on how other people's bodies react.
by terryfelix on August 13, 2009 at 6:10 AM
i had sexual intercourse this weekend... but i felt sumthin wroong wid it de whole time... it did nt feel complete at all.. n he din seem to reach de peak like i did... plus since then am havin a regular gradual white discharge... not overflowin or anythin.. but i feel damn weird... i dono wat all this means
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:32 PM
You can check with an ob-gyn just to make sure nothing is wrong.
by elpmisYug on August 21, 2009 at 9:47 AM
where you can find hymen? inside the vagina or at the opening of vagina?
because i really confusing..
(my gf said that she is a virgin)
i have sex with her and i look at her vagina and there's a hymen at the opening of the v***** but i was so confused that why its not bleeding?when we have sex.
but she is saying (it hurts)but its not bleeding my whole penis enter inside the vagina.
by Ashler1999 on August 27, 2009 at 6:05 PM
at the opening, about a quarter of an inch in. All women's bodies are different though, so that is not a rule. As stated previously, not all women bleed the first time they have intercourse. The hymen may have already been stretched due to exercise, masturbation, tampons, etc. If your girlfriend is in pain, you should take things slower with her. Invest in some lube and use plentifully. She will be thankful for it, and be more willing next time round!
by TravelSize on August 21, 2009 at 10:21 PM
I realize that you've all probably read and answered this kind of question at some point higher up after I stopped reading, but I want to ask any way just to be on the safe side. My boyfriend and I almost had sex the day before yesterday, however, he was mostly in and it became too painful for me and asked him to stop. Now today, I'm bleeding a little. The blood is combined with clear excretions that I'm used to at this point, but not combined with blood. Also, when I go to the restroom, The walls of my vagina feel kind of like I have a charlie horse, for lack of better description. I'm almost positive that it's nothing, and that I was just too dry or something to that extent, but this is something that I don't want to take any chance on. I'm not concerned with my hymen having broken after reading all of the other posts, especially since I was extremely active as a child and still are from time to time now. I would go to a gynecologist, but I live in a small town, and the closest one is an hour away, and I don't have the money to pay for one, nor would my mother pay for me, as she doesn't believe that a girl under the age of 18 needs to go to one at all. Because of this, I was hoping that a few people who know what they're talking about could help me on here. Any information would be extremely helpful.
by Ashler1999 on August 27, 2009 at 5:56 PM
It is quite possible that you were too dry and as a result, ripped some sensitive tissue. I would wait to see if the pain subsides. If pain continues, it could indicate a more serious problem, like endomitriosis. Or it could be something more common like a ruptured cyst. I would not freak out just yet. Give it some time. If pain continues or recurs, I would definitely go to the doctor. No need to tell Mom that you are having sex. Just tell her you having abnormal adominal pain. No matter how strict or old fashioned she is, I am sure she loves you and wants you to be healthy. If cost is an issue, see if you can find a Planned Parenthood clinic. The name of the clinic may throw your mom off, but they provide cheap/free services.
by himandher on August 31, 2009 at 1:28 PM
my girlfriend has had her period twice this month, she stopped for one day and then started again now she is spotting she said that her cit burned when she was peeing. we went to a gyno and he didnt really give us an answer she said that her chest is hurting her we have never had sex and she is still a virgin what could be wrong with her im worried
by 36accepted on September 1, 2009 at 8:44 PM
Ok i have a problem. I fingered my girlfriend and her hymen broke she bleed a little. Were young and shes worried that she is no longer a virgin because she broke her hymen becasue of the fingering. My belief is that you are a virgin until you have had sexual intercourse. My question is, Is my girlfriend still a virgin even though her hymen is broken from fingering and not sexual intercourse?
by Sanssouci on September 4, 2009 at 9:36 PM
As the article says, hymens are not related to virginity. A girl is a virgin until she has sex regardless of the state of her hymen.
by daydreamer9693 on September 16, 2009 at 1:08 PM
I have a problem, starting from the beginning my boyfriend fingered me and i didnt bleed, first time we had intercourse i didnt bleed and still dont bleed from any other intercourse we have. So im trying to figure out do I have a hymen? or was i born without one? i was born one month early and i played sports and horse back rode, the only time i recall irregularly bleeding was one day and it wasnt alot i thought it was my period starting but apparently not, so im just trying to figure whats up down there ive never masturbated either. Could anyone please help me find an answer as to whats up!
by Sanssouci on September 26, 2009 at 8:54 PM
It's possible that you were born without one. But it is more likely that you tore it while playing sports or riding horses. Sometimes there is no pain or bleeding, so some girls don't even realize that it tore. But the hymen doesn't serve a purpose anyway, so when and how it tore isn't really important.
by Kittyloaf on September 29, 2009 at 2:26 PM
I was just wondering.... I think I have a thing called a septate hymen (it's kind of embarrasing to describe, i hope someone's heard of it..). Does anyone know what it's all about? I'm worried that since it's not a normal hymen it won't go away after I have sex for the first time.
Also, should you wait until after you've had sex for the first time to go to the gyno? I'm worried the insturment they use might break my hymen since I'm a virgin, but I feel like it's getting about that time to start going.
Any help would be GREATLY appreciated =]
by Sanssouci on October 1, 2009 at 10:24 PM
A septate hymen means the hymen has an extra band of tissue in the middle. That can make it difficult to insert things, but it's certainly not a major problem. If it doesn't tear on its own, the ob-gyn can easily snip it for you.
You should ideally see an ob-gyn before you have sex. Because the most effective methods of birth control can only be obtained through an ob-gyn.
The instrument the doctor uses could tear a hymen. However, as the article said, most hymens are thin and delicate. They often break before a girl has sex. So most hymens are going to be torn before a girl goes to the ob-gyn.
There is often little to no blood or pain when the hymen tears. And hymens don't do anything anyway. So you really should not be afraid of how or when it tears.
Worst case scenario, you have an unusually think one that the doctor would need to snip. And that's not really a big deal.
So schedule an appointment. The doctor would be able to tell you for sure what state your hymen is in. If it is thick and might make sex difficult, she can snip it right there. Otherwise, she can give you information, birth control, and anything else you might need.
by maemae0509 on October 4, 2009 at 2:24 AM
I dont know what it is but ,i am a girl and my friend thats a boy ,nick , when i get near nick i feel in love but not in love more towards sexual feelings and we are open to eachother like one time we even stayed up from 10:30 pm till 5:30 am talking about sex. He me when he "did it" for the first time he bled and she bled a little he said it hurts too but i would get used to it what should i do? and also when we where talking about sex Nick had to pee alot and so did i what is up with that?
by Sanssouci on October 4, 2009 at 1:44 PM
It's normal to have sexual urges. But you should not act on those urges until you are ready, prepared, and educated. Because people who are ready, prepared, and educated deal with a lot less regret, fewer STDs, and fewer accidental pregnancies.
Sex isn't supposed to hurt, even your first time. Pain is usually due to not having enough lubrication. When a woman is too dry, there is friction. That friction means skin can tear. And that can mean pain and bleeding.
The problem is people who don't know enough about reproductive health don't know about lubrication. So they try to force it even if they're too dry. They feel pain. They assume it's supposed to be that way. They tell all their friends that sex hurts, and a myth is born.
Feel free to explain lubrication to Nick or to show him this site.
Before having sex you should:
-Have a basic understanding of reproductive health, anatomy, and fertility
-Have at least one form of birth control that you know how to use
-Know about STDs and how to protect yourself
-Have a water-based lubricant (you can buy them from the store, usually near the condoms)
-Feel comfortable with your partner. If you're uncomfortable, you're likely to tense up. And that can make sex difficult or painful
-Have a way to get to the doctor for pap smears, birth control, STD tests, and whatever else you might need.
by maemae0509 on October 4, 2009 at 7:08 PM
ok thats great advice i also have another question
see I havent had my period not even trickles of blood but i have hair on my "places and armpits" i get PMS sometimes i act like i get my period but it never happens could i get pregnant even if i havent had my period yet?
by Sanssouci on October 4, 2009 at 8:44 PM
Yes, you can get pregnant even if you have not had a period. Because you could be about to get your period. And you can ovulate (ovulation is when you release an egg and are most fertile) before that period. So you could get pregnant at that very first ovulation, before you even get your first period.
by Jessguitar on October 4, 2009 at 8:06 PM
Im 15 a male and my girlfriend and I are deeply and truely in love she is a junior I am a sophomore we have been dating for a little over a year and I occasionally finger her I have what you could call an over average penis (9in) and I'm afraid if we have sex (with a condom) I may hurt her I'm almost positive her hymen is gone I would like to know if I may hurt her. Please and thank all you ladies that may help me
Jess
by Sanssouci on October 4, 2009 at 8:47 PM
Sex should not hurt, even if the guy is a bit over average. If it does hurt, it usually means the girl is not relaxed, lubricated, and in the mood enough.
So when you are two are ready to try intercourse make sure you have protection, have a water-based lubricant, are comfortable with each other, and have a safe place where you don't have to worry about getting walked in on.
by maemae0509 on October 4, 2009 at 9:27 PM
let say im not near any place where i know im not ovulating or anything is pregnancy still posible?
by Sanssouci on October 5, 2009 at 9:40 AM
Most women have no idea when they are ovulating. Sperm can also live in the vagina for a few days. So a woman can have sex, ovulate a few days later, then get pregnant. So you should play it safe, assume you are always fertile, and use protection every time.
by maemae0509 on October 4, 2009 at 9:42 PM
hey verrry important question i just remembered...
i am 13 im scared to talk about this to my mom so i hope you can help... i have never gotten my period ever but for about 1 year i have had to change my underwear every 12 hours because the discharge coming from me is very heavy and i am getting itchy if i dont change after 12 hours please im scared and upset because i have a tiny frame so pads, i cant even wear them because they make none smal enough and im 13 sometimes i wake up and a find myself really sweaty down there whats going on i really need to know in case i really do NEED to tell my mom. PLEASE HELP
by Sanssouci on October 5, 2009 at 9:58 AM
It's normal to have discharge. Discharge flushes out the vagina so it can stay healthy and clean. It also acts as a lubricant for sexual activity.
Women all make different amounts. Some women make a lot, others make a little. You might notice that you make more when you are in the mood. Some women make so much that they change their underwear a couple times, wear a pantyliner, or wear two pairs of underwear.
No matter how small you are, there are pads you can wear. Pads can in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, thicknesses, etc. If you get a pad that is way too long, you can even cut it in half. For light bleeding or heavy discharge, you'd probably be better off with a pantyliner as opposed to an actual pad.
It's normal to sweat down there too. Make sure you wear breathable to underwear, such as cotton.
So that stuff all sounds normal. The itching is probably ok too. But if your are really itchy, it could be a sign of infection. The only way to know for sure is to see an ob-gyn.
Make sure you are washing properly. You should be washing the vulva (outside parts where the hair grows) with a very mild soap. You should not be trying to wash your vagina (the inside part where no hair grows).
And although shaving pubic hair is very common right now, it's actually not recommended. Shaving can increase your chance of getting an infection down there. Your pubic hair protects your vagina in very much the same way that your eyelashes protect your eyes. So it's better to leave it all natural or to just trim. But be aware that trimming can cause itching too.
by anju_sinha on October 5, 2009 at 11:27 AM
hi...i m 24 yr old and i had first intercourse 2 years
ago ...at that time it was bleeding frm vagina and also
pained.. dnt what that was .now i will get married soon
so pls help me in knowing that is my hymen has torn ????
b cause i m worried that it can create problem in my
upcoming married life...and one thing more that i had
sex many times but never ever my partner's penis got
in greater then 1 ench because there is not large
opening or hole so that his pnis can get in...even 2
fingers can not be inserted toghether in hole...i
always think that its my defect that i have a very
small opening in hole and i can notfeel a normal and fully inserted sex...
pls help me and tell
a solution.
by Sanssouci on October 5, 2009 at 12:17 PM
We cannot say for sure whether your hymen is intact. All we can say is that since most hymens are thin and delicate, yours probably has torn. But some are thicker than others. So if you want to know for sure, ask your ob-gyn.
A lot of women think their opening might be too small. But that usually is not the case. The vagina can feel very small and tight if the women is dry, tense, or not in the mood. But that very same vagina can feel quite loose if the woman is wet, comfortable, and aroused.
If you have trouble inserting anything or feel pain even when you are relaxed, lubricated, and in the mood, then it is something you need to discuss with your ob-gyn. You should be seeing an ob-gyn anyway because all women have to get pap smears at least every three years.
by chloiiew on October 13, 2009 at 11:11 AM
HELP !!!!!
IM A VIRGIN AND I WONT TO NO DOES SEX HURT AT ALL , WILL SOMEONE TELL ME EXACKLY WHAT HAPPENS DURING FIRST TIME SEX ?? WILL ANY ONE SHOW ME A DIAGRAM COZ YOULL HAVE TO EXPLAIN IN SMALL WORDS :l IM NOT THT CLEVER :l THANKS GUYS ??? ANYONE HELP X
by Sanssouci on October 13, 2009 at 8:53 PM
Sex shouldn't hurt. But it can hurt if you're not in the mood, if you're nervous, of if you're too dry.
What happens during the first time is the same thing that happens every other time a person has sex. There is nothing physically different about the first time.
by anonymous79 on October 13, 2009 at 12:52 PM
To all young women reading this... the best thing you can do for yourself is to go and buy the book TAKING CHARGE OF YOUR FERTILITY. There is more information in this book than you could ever possibly want to know about the female sexual health. I bought this book a few months ago when trying to conceive with my husband but I can't wait to be able to give this book to my daughter when the time finally comes. I had no idea how much I still didn't know about my own body! I can remember being 13 or 14 and thought I was some freak and that something was wrong with me because I had clear and white discharge! This is totally normal but I was never told any of this, and no one will ever tell you all of this. They certainly don't tell you this in any sex education class... if they even still have those! Also to all of you that don't know what the hymen look like check out this link and don't be afraid to google it yourself! http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html
by GG-Juicebox on October 17, 2009 at 7:40 AM
Hi, I'm just 16 and have been using tampons now for only about 6 months. (I started my periods when I was 13 but until then, it has really hurt to put tampons in and believe me I had tried loads, I hate pads!) Just today, I was changing my tampon and put a new one in and struggled a bit more with it, it really hurt and I winced in pain in a similar way to when I wasnt able to use tampons, as (I don't know if this is at all possible?) if my vagina had moved further down. When I managed to get the tampon further in it felt really wrong, like in a different place almost, and this sounds really weird I know but, parallel to my anus when it was in. I got very worried and when I looked in the mirror it seemed like there was a much larger hole at the entrance of my vagina, and further down too with a weird thick flappy thing at the top going over it. I'm worried and I don't know what has happened and if it could be related to the hymen in any way? I haven't put another tampon in yet as it feels so weird and scary. There was obviously blood as I am on my period.
In case it makes a difference I'm a virgin, have masturbated (but not stuck anything 'up' there as such) and am a keen runner.
Thank you :)
by Sanssouci on October 17, 2009 at 5:50 PM
It's possible that it felt funny coming out because you were tense, or because it was a bit dry, or because you have a thick hymen that it got caught on, etc. None of that stuff is anything to panic about. But if you're curious about your body and want to make sure everything is normal and healthy down there, you can schedule an ob-gyn appointment once you're done with your period.
by 85ladyz on October 23, 2009 at 8:20 AM
hi, i'm a virgin. since i'm not ready to have intercourse, my bf and i just enjoy petting sessions. unfortunately last night, his penis accidentally hit my vagina's opening severely. it's hurt, but i'm pretty sure that his penis didn't penetrate me because i pushed him away almost at the same time . but after a while, i noticed blood at my vagina.
can that incident tear my hymen although his penis didn't penetrate me? i feel quite sad about that.
by Sanssouci on October 23, 2009 at 10:48 AM
Absolutely. Hymens can (and do) tear without penetration. They can even tear from things like gymnastics.
It's nothing to feel sad about though. The hymen does not do anything. And whether your hymen is intact or not, you're still a virgin until you have sex. So tearing your hymen isn't going to change anything. Most girls don't even know for sure whether their hymen is intact or not.
If his penis is that close to your vagina, you might want to use protection just to be extra safe though. Because if there is fluid on his penis and he slips and hits the entrance of your vagina, it actually would be possible for you to get pregnant. And fluid does come out before a guy ejaculates.
by purplover23 on October 23, 2009 at 6:57 PM
im kinda worried cuz when i masturbate i have to insert my finger to climax...it doesnt work any other way or i havnt figured it out yet or something. and like im a virgin and my bf has fingered me but i never climaxed i faked it and i liked how it felt alot but i just never went all the way. and i dont know what to do. and ive looked for my clit but i cant find it and i know where its supposed to be cuz ive seen diagrams and stuff but i just dont see it. and im told its bigger when ur in the mood and when im in the mood ive looked and i still cant see it..is this normal? like i dont want to keep faking it with my bf but i dont want to push him to inserting his finger into me if he doesnt wnat to or whatever. but ya just stroking where the clit is supposed to be doesnt do the trick...??? help please??? or advice...
by strong776 on November 8, 2009 at 6:47 PM
Does the hymen bleed inside the vagina and flow out? OR what happen? I have had sex many times, then all of a sudden i bleed? I dont know what is going on...can anyone help?
by uselessgopher on November 12, 2009 at 5:04 PM
Hey, Im 15 and a guy. Whenever i finger my girlfriend and i go inside her vagina, it hurts her really bad. It kinda feels like a belly button. Is that her hymen? she used to ride horses and do gymnastics so i thought it would already be gone. help?