Sex FAQs 2
Sexual Questions Part II
1. What is an erection?
An erection is a hardening of the penis that occurs when tubes in the penile tissues fill up with blood. Usually, an erection causes the penis to enlarge and stand away from the body. Erections go away on their own or after orgasm and ejaculation (although prolonged erections may cause something known as "blue balls"). Erections usually begin when a male reaches puberty.
2. Is It normal to get erections during the day?
Yes, erections are a perfectly normal function of the male body, especially in guys who are going through puberty. Many erections are caused by sexual arousal, but if you've gotten an erection during a weird or embarrassing situation there's no reason to worry that something is wrong with you. Your body is just acting naturally. In fact, you can also get erections at night while you sleep. These are called "wet dreams" and they are perfectly normal.
3. Can masturbating hurt?
No, not really. You might get sore if you are masturbating a lot. If you feel sore from masturbating too much, or if masturbating gets in the way of your social life, than that is too much for you. Try a water-soluble lubricant also.
4. Is birth control only available from a doctor?
You don't have to go to a doctor to get condoms, sexual lubricants or dental dams. Condoms are sold in most drug stores chains, in some super markets and via the Internet.
Birth contol pills are only available from a doctor, although they should be used with a diaphragm to protect yourself from STDs. If you don't want to use birth control pills, you may also try Depo-Provera or Ortho Evra. You will have to see a health care provider or a clinic for these prescriptions. For other birth control options, click here.
5. Can a female get pregnant from giving oral sex to a male?
No.
6. Does sex hurt the first time? Will there be blood?
Sex shouldn't hurt, whether it's your first time or your hundredth time. Most women do not bleed the first time they have sexual intercourse. If there is bleeding, it's usually due to a broken or torn hymen. The hymen is a membrane that partially covers the opening of a woman's vagina. Most girls break their hymens during childhood from activities like bike riding or horseback riding, or from using tampons for their menstrual cycle, often without knowing.
If sex hurts, it's usually because a woman hasn't been sexually aroused through foreplay. That means her vagina isn't lubricated enough before penetration.
For Sexual Questions Part 1, click here.
Member Comments
by browls0 on September 15, 2008 at 8:58 PM
Sex does hurt a woman the first time! Not once you are fully penetrated, but the initial penetration of the first time can be very painful no matter how aroused you are!
by Sanssouci on November 23, 2008 at 10:24 AM
That is incorrect; please reread the article above. Do not assume your personal experiences are the same as every other woman's.
I experienced no pain or discomfort my first time. I was very aroused and very well lubricated. When a woman is in the mood and well lubricated, she should not experience pain during sex, even during the initial penetration. If you experience pain during the initial penetration, you're probably not lubricated and aroused enough when sex begins. You can try a water-based lubricant or more foreplay. If you continue to have pain or discomfort during sex, let your doctor know.
by 2394872h on February 4, 2009 at 5:16 AM
It hurt me the first few times I had sex. The whole time. We had enough lubrication, and I was very aroused. It was the same way for most of the women I know.
To Sanssouci: browls0 said it CAN be very painful, she didn't say it always is. She was correct. If a womans hymen hasn't been broken the first time she has sex, it can hurt her, too. It's the stretching of the vagina that hurts the first few times during sex for some. She wasn't wrong, you are.
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:20 AM
2394872h, no browls said "Sex does hurt a woman the first time!" She did not use the word "can." Please read carefully.
Pain during sex is usually a result of being too dry or being tense. If you feel pain even when using a lubricant, when in the mood, and when relaxed make sure you talk to an ob-gyn about it.
by lynnsh on September 17, 2008 at 6:54 AM
well it did not hurt when i had my frist time...
by i_x3_me on December 11, 2008 at 3:18 PM
well I don't know if I really had sex, because it feels as if the penis is hitting on sumthing and can't go past that point, and I'm not sure if the penis is hitting the outside of my vagina or if this is how sex feels..can u help me understand?
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:23 AM
If a penis went in your vagina, then yes, you had sex. If you're not sure how far your partner was able to go in, talk to him about it. It can be really difficult for a guy to get in if you're tense or dry. You can also visit an ob-gyn to make sure everything looks ok.
by sarnol13 on February 20, 2009 at 1:03 PM
well.. my first time hurt but thats because my boyfriend's penis was huge lol and i did bleed from mine and i hear A LOT of girls do... (not saying that it happens to everyone), hence the phrase "popped cherry."
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:25 AM
Sometimes bleeding is caused by a torn hymen. But it's more common for bleeding to be the result of delicate vaginal tissue tearing during sex when a woman is too dry.
by gtwy2hvn on March 20, 2009 at 4:30 PM
My first time didnt hurt durring, but i did hurt a bit the day after... almost like if id sat really hard on a bike seat
by gtwy2hvn on March 20, 2009 at 4:32 PM
it didnt hurt durring sex my first time, but it hurt a bit the day after. it felt alot like when you land hard on the seat to a bike. the pain didnt last long tho.
by gtwy2hvn on March 20, 2009 at 4:32 PM
D: sorry double post.
by whatshouldido on June 4, 2009 at 6:19 PM
wow.. reading all these painful stories makes me want to become a nun :)
ahahaha!
im only 15 & im not looking to have sex anytime soon, but im still super scared. id rather have none at all acctually! but one day, i want kids, so.. yeahh
lifes retarded :)
by Sanssouci on June 28, 2009 at 10:30 AM
Don't be scared. A lot of women don't realize that their fear and all the myths about sex actually make it worse.
Some girls experience pain and bleeding due to a torn hymen or medical issues. But most girls could actually have a pain-free and blood-free first time if they just knew more about their body. So remember that before having sex you should be relaxed, in the mood, and lubricated. Make sure you see an ob-gyn to get birth control and a pap too.
by Empire280 on July 26, 2009 at 8:57 PM
can people under the age of 17 have sex in the State of New York Legally anyone Know?