How to Masturbate - A Guide for Women
Overview
Most women orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris. Others can only orgasm from vaginal penetration, also known as G-Spot stimulation. However, there is no wrong or right way to masturbate because everyone responds differently.
Before Your Masturbate
It is important to relax as much as you can and ensure total privacy. Get into a comfortable position and find the parts of your body that are easily stimulated. Some sources of stimulation may be found along the vagina, nipples, inner and outer labia, clitoris and perineum. Orgasm may be reached by stroking these parts of the body. The clitoris and labia are usually the most easily stimulated, so different types of pressure, speed and motion should be tried on these areas.
Many women have very sensitive nipples, and can actually reach orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. If you are close to reaching orgasm but cannot climax, try altering your breathing and giving extra stimulation to the nipples.
Breathing is also important for orgasm. Breathing deeply (rather than holding your breath) helps release sexual energy, rather than fight it. While you breathe, clench and release the PC muscle, much as in Kegel exercises.
As you begin to orgasm, continue the stimulation lightly through the orgasm, or stop if it feels like it's too intense. Slightly lessen stimulation during the first extremely sensitive moments but do not stop because there are small "aftershocks" after an orgasm, slightly less intense but pleasurable physical feelings.
If you don't orgasm on your first try, continue to practice. Practice breathing from your belly.
Helpful Hints
• Lubrication (Wet, Astroglide or any that are sold in most drugstore chains)
• Vibrators
• Dildos
• Climatique Sexual Enhancement Gel
• Recall a previous sexual encounter
Masturbation has many beneficial effects. It can often relieve the following ailments:
• Menstrual cramps
• Stress
• Insomnia (when a person has difficulty falling asleep)
• Common infections (this is accomplished by stimulating the immune system)
• Excess of mood-elevating hormones
Member Comments
by lelith98 on January 23, 2009 at 6:55 PM
i'm 19 and i cant have an orgasm help
i want to masturbate but it does not feel nice
by funtimes225 on February 3, 2009 at 5:33 PM
Try stimulating your mind before doing anything physical to yourself, try talking to someone on the phone about sex fantasies or going to a movie store and renting a porn the looks like something you could be aroused by. Anyhow you do it just remember take you time there's no rush, use lubricant, and most important of all feel around to see what feels good and if your not sure if it does try being a little more gentle and slower, Sometimes the best feeling leading up to the orgasm can feel strange at first and then later getting more pleasurable.
All that said, really the best orgasms come from a good imagination, try this to get you aroused, pick the person who you think you could do something with then imagine what this person could do to you, What could you do to them? Imagine their private body parts and what they could be put in, on, or around you. Don't be ashamed of what your mind might come up with, It's your private thoughts, between you and your toys.
by diamonddmoss08 on February 3, 2009 at 11:45 PM
My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 3 yrs now and i have never had an orgasm. there have been times where i thought i might have one but it almost felt as if i had to urinate so i kinda held it in so i wouldn't go all over the place! i enjoy the sex alot and i can see that he wants me to reach an orgasm but i just can't. he even asks me from time to time if i am about to have one but i just kind of shake my head and say nothing of it. and it does not exactly feel right or good when i try to masturbate, but my next step is actually going out and buying myself a vibrator. i need help
by 02seddonhe on February 16, 2009 at 8:08 AM
thats exactly what you should do, buy a vibrator! i like you have been with my boyfriend three years without an orgasm but for xmas he got me a rampant rabbit, im not that fond of the actual shaft but the clitoral stimulation is garanteed to help you reach that orgasm, get your boyfriend to join in with you if your a little nervous at first. :)
by Nady2015 on February 26, 2009 at 6:00 PM
they only way i could really experience an orgasm if i have my gf go down on me, i try masterbating but it just doesn't work...is there something wrong?
by neilfan45 on March 14, 2009 at 4:28 PM
i first masterbated by myself was last week, and I had problems afterwards. I kept on coming or i felt funny inside my walls. Is this normal? this is my first time
by ashley_121 on March 21, 2009 at 3:23 PM
I'm 18.. and I can't get an orgasm when I masturbate, it feels good at the time.. but I don't really ever feel like I'm getting anywhere, at the end of it all I'm just really tired to do anything, kinda starts hurting as well..
the pain doesn't go away .. the walls and the bone kinda start hurting. I don't get much sleep at night cuz of this.. start feeling cold,and I go to pee like 4-5 times in a day
I need serious help!
by prebib on March 25, 2009 at 4:17 PM
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by prebib on March 25, 2009 at 4:20 PM
Im kinda worries as when i masturbate i can ony use one finger, it hurts if i put 2 in, is there any reason why i can only fit one?
by ashwee1 on April 4, 2009 at 7:38 PM
It's because your vagina isnt wide enough.keep practicing with two fingers and stretch it a little bit,I used to be the same way.
by cleoallen on April 5, 2009 at 10:44 AM
no just everyones diffrent maybe your viginas just smaller so youll need a man with a smaller cock have u had sex with a man?
by poppypoo on April 10, 2009 at 11:00 AM
when i masturbated for the first time i kept on coming too. i had never came or nothing before. this was like a year ago and i still do it. whats wrong with me?? is this normal??
by princessloo on June 25, 2009 at 7:22 AM
hi i was wondering if masterbating with a bathtub faucet will cause infertility?
what are the risks of doing it?
by bucklebunnygal on July 23, 2009 at 1:47 PM
absolutely not, I've done that since I was 11 and had 2 children. the only risks I have heard is being careful not to force water into the vagina, just let it hit the clitoris.
by orgasmic112 on July 6, 2009 at 3:48 AM
i want to have an orgasm asap. but fingering isnt helping. neither is lube. i am not comfortable using food or hairbrushes. what should i use. the first/last time i used a dildo it cut me and i am never using one again. my husbands cock is too small and there is no point in having sex because there is no pleasure or fun in intercourse. please help. relationship and my well being on the line.. NEED ORGASM!!!
by orgasmic112 on July 6, 2009 at 3:48 AM
i want to have an orgasm asap. but fingering isnt helping. neither is lube. i am not comfortable using food or hairbrushes. what should i use. the first/last time i used a dildo it cut me and i am never using one again. my husbands cock is too small and there is no point in having sex because there is no pleasure or fun in intercourse. please help. relationship and my well being on the line.. NEED ORGASM!!!
by Alexia27 on November 3, 2009 at 11:51 AM
HI,Look the side of the you husband doen'r matter, he have a tonge and also fingers the thing it's that you are not having good sex a pinis isn't everything try to put some new things to your relationship and teach him to give you placer, and if he can't provide you a good orgasm mmm then it's better tha you buy a vibrator that isn't so expensive xd
by virgin28 on July 10, 2009 at 8:52 PM
Help! I'm 28 and have never had a good sexual experience. I was married for a few years but my ex hurt me so much that I passed out during the experiences usually. It's been a few years now and a friend told me masturbation might help me get past my fear of having sex but i have no idea of where to start to even learn this. Any tips or advice would be helpful. Thanks.
by Alexia27 on November 3, 2009 at 11:22 AM
look the first part i tried to know yourself if you feel uncortable touching you a daylight wait till the night with the lights off and touch your body let you mind free of any thoughs just relax your boddy and make that you hand start to play with your nipples, you belly and arround your vagina. try to know what it's the spot that like you most and play with it, open your legs and touch yourself for a while after that when you feel some exitation try to play with you clitoris but softly and after you could change and see how fast or hard you whan to touch you. and if you feel good anough try to go further getting a finger o two inside you.
think of this, who better than you could say when to stop, it's your body try to know it and enjoy it
by horney123 on August 4, 2009 at 8:22 AM
orgasmic112
there are loads of ways to have an orgasm
ill tell u one try usin a shampoo bottle
squeese on ur clit
soo it feel like a man is sucking it
GREAT !! :P
ill tell you more if u want haha
but need bit of help my boyfriend and i have been on n off for a year now and he is great with sex n oral but he never does it for long enough i spend ages on him and he doesnt return it iv tryed to tell him but he doesnt change help ?
by hallabella on November 14, 2009 at 6:18 PM
Is it normal to NOT make noise when u masturbate? i mean i've done it for awhile, and i can control if i make noise or not. my ex had told me to record it for him, sicne he was far away,and i did but i made to make the noise. is that normal?
by KathyJo61 on November 17, 2009 at 7:16 PM
Im a 15 YO. female and I just started masturbating in the shower/bathtub, I lay back and aim the warm water from the shower massage right on my clit and OMG! I have the best orgasms ever, I cant wait to shower a few times a day, I hope its ok to shoot water in my vagina, let me know if its not healthy
by pempem on November 18, 2009 at 6:38 AM
How do i have an orgasm by fingering? I can have orgasms by stimulating my clit. But i can't seem to do it when i finger my vag. I don't have access to sex toys coz i reside in the dormitory of the catholic school i attend to. Any tips?
by MissMolley on November 20, 2009 at 3:42 PM
I have orgasims with my husband, but prefer to masterbate alone, or over the phone with my lover. We have phone sex everyday, and since we don't physically touch or have intercourse I don't feel guilty about cheating on my husband. The best thing that works for us (my lover and I), is nasty talk. Sometimes the dirtier, the better. I have a dildo and a vibrater, and use my fingers. It's great to hear his voice and have him telling what to do and what he would like to do to me...and have me do to him, i.e., sucking, jacking, etc.. Sometimes it takes 2-3 hours for me to cum, but it's time well spent. Don't know if this helps or not, but I suggest dirty talk, and having a lover. Even if you're single.