Ironic as it may be, living in the so-called communication age may actually be contributing to a break down of good-quality interpersonal interactions, according to the National Institutes of Health, or NIH. When you fail to communicate effectively, it can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings that can be potentially damaging to your relationships. Use 10 simple ways to improve your communication skills.
Be Straight-Foward
Telling it like you see it in a kind manner is critical to good communication skills. Learn to be direct with your words, advises the Mayo Clinic. If you beat around the bush about your true feelings, you may send the wrong message. This can leave you feeling frustrated and resentful.
Think Before You Speak
Take a few moments before you open your mouth to gather your thoughts. Think about the point you wish to convey to the other person. When you speak thoughtfully--and with clarity--you are more apt to be understood.
Ask Questions
Ask for clarification if you are the least bit uncertain about the meaning of another person's statement. Do not assume that you understand the gist of a message. Messages that aren't crystal clear can lead to misunderstandings.
Double Check
Repeat back your interpretation of the other person's comments. Leave no room for doubt. Once you're confident that you're both on the same page, you will be more equipped to give an appropriate and meaningful response.
Don't Point Fingers
Use "I" statements to help prevent others from feeling attacked, according to the Mayo Clinic. For example, don't say, "You make me made." It's less accusatory to say, "I'm upset."
Listen in Earnest
Good listening skills are important to effective communication, according to the NIH. Instead of concentrating on what you want to say once the other person stops talking, pay attention to what they are saying without judgment. If you're thinking of your response while the other person is talking, you aren't practicing good communication skills.
Don't Criticize
Avoid criticizing another person's viewpoint. Make an effort to understand his point of view. This doesn't mean you have to agree with something you don't believe in--just be willing to accept and ponder an opposing idea.
Maintain Your Composure
Keep close tabs on your emotions if a conversation turns heated, recommends the Mayo Clinic. If you feel mad, sad or frustrated you may want to take a break from the discussion until you calm down. Return to the discussion when you are able to keep your voice firm and steady.
Practice Your Words
If you feel uncomfortable about an upcoming conversation rehearse what you want to say beforehand advises the Mayo Clinic. For example if you have scheduled to a meeting with your boss to ask for a raise practice how you want to broach the subject with confidence and clarity.
Use Body Language
Body language can be a very effective form of communication, especially if it's difficult for you to express yourself verbally. Make eye contact while you speak and lean toward the speaker. This type of body language indicates to the other person that you are fully participating in the exchange.
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