Just about everyone has occasional sad feelings, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Usually those feelings pass within a few days, but sometimes they hang on for weeks or months. They get in the way of your daily activities and can turn into depression. Your relationship may be contributing to the problem if you are married, living with someone or dating.
Definition
Depression is a mental disorder characterized by pervasive feelings of sadness and other symptoms, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. It can manifest itself many forms, with some more severe than others. For example, major depressive disorder severely impairs a person's functioning, while dysthymic disorder's symptoms are more low-key. Depression from a relationship may start out mild and worsen over the years if there is no improvement your partnership.
Cause
Depression can have physical causes like neurotransmitter imbalances in the brain or genetics, according to the Help Guide mental health resource site. But life situations can cause depression or make it worse. Relationships can lead to depression if you are being physically or emotionally abused or if you are not being fulfilled or feel trapped. Depression is often a self-protective reaction to situations in which you feel powerless. You may withdraw and go into a depressive state if you do not feel you can change the relationship or get out of it.
Symptoms
The symptoms of depression that a relationship causes are the same as general depressive symptoms, but many of them have a root in specific relationship problems. For example, National Institute of Mental Health cites hopeless feelings as a typical symptom. You can develop these feelings when you're stuck with a partner who doesn't support you emotionally or fulfill your needs. Social isolation is another common symptom. An abusive partner can exacerbate these feelings, because abusers like to separate their victims from family members and friends. The guilt that often comes from depression may have its roots in relationship problems like cheating on your partner or feeling that your actions lead him to abuse you. You can suffer insomnia and fatigue from staying up late and worrying about your situation.
Solution
You can treat depression from a relationship in two main ways. You may need individual and couples counseling if you want to preserve the relationship--and if your partner agrees to participate. A counselor can teach you individually how to manage anxiety and frustration related to your relationship. In couples sessions, you and your partner can improve communication and learn how to meet each other's needs more effectively. You may need to think about ending the relationship if your partner refuses to take any action. A counselor will help you explore your options and make a realistic plan. The depression will typically resolve itself once you have healthy outlets for your feelings and are taking power to change your situation.
Warning
Depression from a relationship, like other forms of depressive illness, can lead to suicide in some people. Get professional help if your feelings of hopelessness lead you to think death might be better than being trapped in your current situation. Otherwise, the suicidal thoughts might turn into action, Help Guide warns. Call a suicide prevention or a family member or friend if you are seriously considering self-harm.
