1. Remember That Tantrums are a Form of Communication
While an autistic tantrum can be intense and embarrassing, especially when you're out in public, it is important to remember that the inappropriate behavior is merely a way for the autistic individual to communicate with you. Find out what the autistic person needs, and why the tantrum is occurring. There may be a quick solution that can end the tantrum immediately, such as a misplaced toy or a dropped piece of food.
2. Learn the Fine art of Planned Ignoring
The autistic person must learn that you will never give in to tantrums or other inappropriate behaviors. If the autistic tantrum is the result of anger, disappointment or fear, then simply do not respond to the behavior. Act as if the tantrum is not happening, and go about your business. You must be consistent with planned ignoring. If you respond to temper tantrums once in a while, the inappropriate behavior will continue. If you never respond, the tantrum will eventually stop.
3. Always Reward Appropriate Behavior
Lavish praise on children who exhibit appropriate behaviors in the presence of the autistic individual. This helps define what is expected from the autistic person. Remember, it's easier for an autistic individual to understand what constitutes appropriate behavior by seeing examples, as opposed to you just explaining proper conduct verbally. Don't forget to lavish the same praise on the autistic child when the lesson is learned.
4. Know When to Intervene During an Autistic Tantrum
Occasionally, an autistic tantrum can go too far. An autistic individual may start to hurt himself or others during this inappropriate behavior. In these cases, planned ignoring is obviously not the answer, so you will need to intervene by ensuring the safety of the autistic individual and others by removing all sharp objects and physically isolating the person away from danger. Do not talk to the child or comment on the behavior, just protect the child from danger.
5. Get Help if the Tantrums get Worse
If a steady program of planned ignoring does not solve the problem, you'll need advice from a professional. Something in the environment of the autistic person may be setting off the tantrums and you may need a fresh set of eyes to identify the trigger. If self-injurious behavior is occurring, then you should immediately seek help from a psychologist, psychiatrist or other qualified health care specialist.
