Abuse can take many forms. According to Stanford University, abuse in a relationship can be emotional, physical, financial, sexual or psychological. The abuser sets up a pattern of coercive and abusive behaviors that leads to power and control. Unfortunately, abuse tends to escalate rather than diminish over time. There are a number of sources that provide assistance to people in abusive relationships.
Courts
Most states have a procedure through which you can receive a domestic violence restraining order. Attorneys and court clerks are available to guide you and help you file the proper paperwork. A restraining order typically forbids the abuser from coming within a certain distance of you. While an order of restraint cannot necessarily stave off further abuse, it sets in motion the legal system's process of charging the abuser. When police are called and an order of protection has been issued, they usually take the call more seriously.
Hotlines
There are a number of national help lines that employ advocates who can listen to your situation and provide referrals to local agencies and law enforcement groups. The National Domestic Violence Hotline, for example, is open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Advocates on the line can help you make a plan to get yourself to safety, answer questions if you believe you are being abused and make referrals in all 50 states.
Shelters
Most towns and cities have battered women's shelters that are secret locations where women and their children can stay when they are in physical danger from a spouse or other abuser. Shelters provide food and a bed for women and their children. They can help with referrals to agencies that can aid women with legal, financial and work-related issues. Shelters are short-term solutions for women in danger, although the staff at shelters usually will help you find housing and other assistance.
Counseling
Most college campuses have counseling centers for students seeking assistance with abusive relationships. Local municipalities and state social service agencies provide abuse counselors and other resources. According to MayoClinic.com, you should talk to someone about your fears and let a trained professional know about your situation. You can work with a counselor to build up the self-esteem and strength needed to leave the relationship. A counselor also can provide referrals to shelters and law enforcement agencies that can help you.
MayoClinic.com doctors recommend avoiding a marriage counselor or couples' counselor if the abuse has escalated to violence. The offender may become more enraged from the sessions and put you in additional danger.
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