Dealing with anger and grief can be extremely difficult, even for the most well-adjusted person. Dealing with loss of any kind can elicit a variety of feelings which may be difficult to identify and sort out. Never be afraid to reach out for help. It is important to seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed or consider harming yourself or others.
Feelings
It is normal to experience an array of feelings when going through the grieving process, and you may even feel several different things at the same time. You may feel sad, depressed, guilty, scared, angry or many other emotions. You may not know where to direct your anger in times of grief, and you may go through periods where you're mad at yourself, another person, a higher power or just angry in general. Allowing yourself to feel your emotions without trying to ignore them is an important part of the grieving process.
Myths
Many people hold onto myths when facing loss. Trying to ignore your feelings or be strong does not usually make your pain go away faster or make it easier to deal with. There is no set time for when you should feel a certain way or certain stages you must go through to deal with your grief. While there are common stages of the grieving process, you may not experience all of them. Even if you do, you may go through them in a different order or even simultaneously.
Coping Strategies
Getting support is important when you are grieving. You can talk to close family members or friends about your feelings to help get them out and allow yourself to vocalize your anger and frustration. Support groups, both in person and anonymously online, can give you a place to share your feelings with others going through the grieving process to help you recognize that you are not alone. Some people find comfort in releasing anger through a creative outlet, such as writing, painting, drawing or dancing. Anything that can help you express your feelings will help make it easier for you to cope.
Professional Help
If you find your anger and other feelings too difficult to deal with on your own or begin to feel depressed for long periods, contacting a grief counselor or professional therapist can help. A therapist can help you express and work through your feelings and teach you ways to relax and allow yourself to go through the grieving process so that eventually your feelings of hurt and anger will begin to subside.
Considerations
If a loved one is grieving and feeling angry, you may be able to help her. Do not push anyone to talk about her feelings, but let her know that you are willing to listen if she wants to talk. Offer to help a grieving friend or family member around the house by assisting with errands, housework, childcare or anything else that may be difficult for her to deal with during her time of loss. Do not offer advice unless you are asked and avoid telling your own stories of times of grief.
