Accomplished flirts know how to capture the attention of potential romantic interests. Some people see flirting as the first step in starting a new relationship. For others, flirting is just a pleasant way to pass the time. Knowing how to flirt, and how not to send the wrong signals when you flirt, can keep things fun and friendly.
The Right Place
Flirting at parties or at casual get-togethers can liven up the evening. Flirting might even be expected in such situations. But avoid flirting at inappropriate times and places. Flirting in the workplace could be problematic, and could even be misconstrued as sexual harassment. Don't flirt at funerals, religious ceremonies or other serious occasions.
The Right Person
Flirting with someone while his spouse or significant other looks on is a recipe for disaster. Some people make a rule about never flirting with attached persons, while others feel innocent flirtation is acceptable as long as it doesn't cross certain boundaries. In the workplace, flirting with subordinates or those over whom you have authority could be interpreted as sexual harassment.
Intentions
The Social Issues Research Center reports that men tend to interpret flirting sexually even if the woman's intentions are merely friendly. Women need to be careful of sending the wrong message, especially to superiors in the workplace or attached men or men in whom they have no sexual interest.
Body Language
Flirting involves more than talking. While sexy or fun banter make flirting enjoyable, both men and women send messages through gestures and posture. The Social Issues Research Center reported that most people based 55 percent of their first impression of others on body language. Eye contact, leaning into people and head-tossing or hair flipping are examples of flirtatious body language.
Mutual Interest
The Social Issues Research Center concludes you will have more success --- and more fun --- if you flirt with people who return your interest. Flirting works best as a two-way form of communication, with parties exchanging banter or flirting body language.
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