For better or for worse, parents are under continuous observation from their children. Whether they are interacting with children directly or pursuing their own interests, parents offer cues as to acceptable ideas and behavior. Parents who display a constructive, optimistic outlook on even the most challenging personal circumstances can help their children learn to do the same.
Find Meaning
Show your children how to appreciate and acknowledge the meaning and benefits of a situation and activities. According to a 2003 report by the National Household Survey on Drug Abuse, youths between the ages of 12 and 17 who felt their schoolwork was meaningful or useful were much less likely to use illegal drugs or alcohol than students who had less positive attitudes toward their schooling.
Manage Changes
Stay focused and positive during times of major life changes such as death, divorce, job loss or relocation, recommends the Nemours Foundation. Children enjoy familiarity and routine and may be unsettled by major change. Parents who display a positive attitude can be particularly reassuring during times of transition. While you can't control all life events, you can control your responses to them, notes the Great Ormond Street Hospital.
Replace Negative Thinking
Eliminate negative categorizing, suggests the website thecutekid. Instead of describing yourself as unable to do something, reframe the statement into a projection that you can do better next time. Then you can discuss how to improve a situation, keeping the emphasis on the positive and what is within your own control, and also on what you can achieve with help and collaboration.
Be Realistic
Rather than trying to do everything well and control all situations, focus on important tasks that truly matter, according to the Great Ormond Street Hospital. Limiting your output can reduce your stress and save your energy, enabling you to be present, supportive and constructive for your child.
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