Every child develops self-esteem throughout his lifetime. Unfortunately, some children lack confidence in themselves due to internal and external issues. It's important for parents, teachers and guidance counselors to understand self-esteem, the signs of a low self-esteem and what they can do to help children improve their self-esteem.
Signs
Signs of an unhealthy self-esteem include self criticism and name calling. For instance, the child might say things like, "I'm dumb," and "No one likes me." A child with a low self-esteem is also likely to get frustrated and give up easily, reports Kids Health. A child with a healthy self-esteem will seem comfortable around her peers, try new things, take on challenges and ask for help when needed. She'll have a positive outlook on life.
Significance and Effects
The National Association for Self-Esteem reports that children with low self-esteem are more likely to be aggressive, abuse alcohol and drugs, have issues in school and commit suicide. A child with an unhealthy self-esteem might be too afraid of rejection to make and maintain healthy relationships. He might develop depression or an anxiety disorder and feel hopeless. A child with a healthy self-esteem is more likely to succeed in school, get along with her peers and not be swayed by peer pressure.
Causes
A child's self-esteem is constantly fluctuating. There isn't one specific reason that a child has a healthy or unhealthy self-esteem. Often, a combination of things affects children's self-esteem and confidence. Kids Health reports that a child's self-esteem can be influenced by fighting at home, lack of encouragement, teasing by peers, physical illness and puberty.
Improving
Parents, teachers, coaches and other adults in a child's life can help that child improve his self-esteem. It's important that adults watch what they say to children, because put downs and pessimism impacts how a child feels about himself. Kids Health recommends that adults praise children for their efforts, not just when they succeed at something. Parents can start a dinnertime ritual to improve all family members' self-confidence. During dinner ask each person to give himself three specific compliments for that day. Give examples such as, "I improved my math grade," and "I learned how to make a delicious recipe to share with my family."
Treatment
Low self-esteem in children isn't a mental health diagnosis that needs immediate attention like other disorders such as depression or anxiety. However, it's a sign of more serious issues. If you feel as if your child suffers from a low self-esteem and you want help, you can contact a mental health professional in your area that specializes in working with children. You can prevent other mental health issues from developing if you get your child assistance for a low self-esteem.
