An adulterous spouse can have you thinking twice about your marital vows, but when you only have a sneaking suspicion that your spouse is cheating, it's hard to prove the infidelity. If you've gotten a gut feeling or a few signs that your spouse might be unfaithful, look for ways to catch your spouse cheating so you have concrete evidence to rest your mind and help you in a potential divorce lawsuit.
Phone Records
If you don't usually look at your phone records when you get the bill, perhaps now is a good time to start. Your spouse's phone records can show you the numbers he calls regularly. If your phone company doesn't send you a list of outgoing calls, you can request phone records for numbers registered under your name. Highlight the ones that you recognize, and circle the ones that you don't, especially frequently called numbers. If it's a cell number, dial it to see who picks up. For land lines, you use Whitepages.com to perform a reverse phone number search.
Credit Card Statement
Open your spouse's credit card statement before she has a chance to look at it. Often, a cheating spouse will charge expenses accrued from an extramarital affair so you don't see the money being drained from your bank account. Expensive gifts, hotel rooms and trips can all show up on the statement. See if you can identify anything suspicious, says InfidelitySupport.com. You can call the credit card company and asked who authorized charges on your joint card to make sure they aren't fraudulent.
Behavior Analysis
You know your spouse better than most, so analyzing his behavior and how it has changed should alert you to a problem. Take into consideration his appearance. If it has changed drastically recently, it may be from satiating another's tastes. Assess his behavior toward you. A man who is suddenly more attentive may feel guilt from his cheating, says Families.com. His sexual behavior may have changed, as well, becoming more adventurous or suddenly nonexistent.
Confrontation
A careful spouse may cover her tracks to make it nearly impossible to catch her in the act of cheating. In this case, a gut feeling or notion may be all the proof that you have. Confronting your spouse about her infidelity may be the most mature and telling way to catch her in the act. She may confess and come clean, or she may deny wrong-doing. Analyze her behavior when you confront her, says WomansDivorce.com. If she denies cheating and throws accusations, you may have hit a nerve and simultaneously discovered the truth.
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