Anger is a natural human reaction that, when left unmanaged, can lead to uncontrollable behavior and sickness. According to the Florida Department of Education, children usually learn how to manage their anger at home--whether correctly or incorrectly. But just because a child may be lacking in anger management skills, doesn't mean he can't be taught. Youngsters can learn how to release anger so that they don't create additional problems and stress themselves out to the point they become mentally or physically sick.
Recognition
According to the Center for Young Women's Health, the first step in for children to manage their anger is to recognize the signs that they are angry. Physical signs that often accompany anger include a tightening in the chest, rapid breathing and tight muscles. They may become flushed and begin to sweat. Once they recognize the signs, they may realize that certain situations trigger their anger. For example, every time they see a certain person who has hurt them, they may become angry, or when they are told they can't do something, they may get mad. Have them keep a diary of those situations so that they will be able to recognize the signs more clearly and prepare for the feelings.
Relaxation
Once they can recognize anger as it begins, they can manage its physical effects so that they can think clearly and devise a strategy to deal with the situation or person and resolve their feelings. There are a number of techniques to teach children so that they can physically de-stress and calm themselves. Deep breathing relaxes the entire body, and they can perform it anywhere. Have them breathe in deeply through their nose, filling their diaphragm, which is the lower part of the abdomen. They should count to six or seven as they breathe in, and then slowly release the air through their mouth. Tell them to breathe until they calm down. Teach them to relax their muscular system by intentionally tightening various muscles, holding them for a couple seconds and releasing. Have them try it with their fists and arms. Then they can tighten their leg muscles and release. They also can relax by reciting a calming sentence over and over in their mind. They can close their eyes while they repeat the words.
Leave
Sometimes the object of their anger cannot be dismissed, and they are not able to diffuse the feelings while in the same room. When children feel that their anger may get out of control and they may start yelling or getting violent, tell them it may be best to remove themselves so that they can employ their relaxation techniques and devise a plan for dealing with the situation. They can tell the person with whom they're angry that they need to walk away and will return when they've calmed down. If the source of their anger is an adult or authority figure, they may have to ask them to leave for a few minutes so that they can get their anger under control. Adults should respect their wishes if they explain that they are getting angry and need a little space before they can respond appropriately.
Resolving Anger
Youths with anger management problems often haven't learned how to resolve their feelings without resorting to inappropriate behavior, according to the Cristo Rey Community Center. Programs are available through local community centers, social services offices and school counseling departments that can provide anger management training for youths in group settings. Therapists and psychologists primarily listen for cues to lead them to the underlying emotional issues that cause the anger. One-on-one counseling often helps a young person resolve the core issues that trigger unmanageable anger. Counselors also can teach kids how to effectively deal with negative emotions when they arise.
