Approximately 14.8 million adults in the United States suffer from major depressive disorder, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Depression not only affects the people with the condition, but their families, friends and loved ones as well. It can be difficult to help someone cope with depression, but getting support from family and friends can make a world of difference to the person suffering from the condition.
Step 1
Learn about depression. Talking to a therapist or other people who have successfully coped with depression often proves useful. Learn about common symptoms, treatment options, medications and ways to provide support. The more you understand about the condition, the better support you will be able to provide.
Step 2
Talk to the person. Share your concerns without judgment or criticism. The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance recommends sharing how important the person is to you and explaining that you understand that depression is an illness and not a weakness. The organization also warns people to avoid telling the person to look on the bright side or that all people go through times like this. It is important to acknowledge that the depression not a case of "the blues" but a serious medical condition.
Step 3
Encourage the person to seek help. Depression is difficult to treat without the help of a professional, and not seeking treatment may cause the depression to worsen, explains MayoClinic.com. Helping the person make the appointment or come up with a list of concerns to discuss with the therapist may also help.
Step 4
Help the person handle obligations and responsibilities. Depression can zap energy and sometimes makes it difficult even to get out of bed. Although it will not cure the depression, your loved one may appreciate help with common household chores and errands.
Step 5
Provide opportunities for fun, positive experiences. Keep inviting your friend to activities and events she may enjoy, but don't pressure her if she doesn't want to go. A common sign of depression is losing interest in activities and experiences that were once enjoyable. However, as your friend begins treatment, she may find participating in these activities enjoyable again.
Step 6
Monitor the person for worsening symptoms. Treating depression often takes time and requires a trial-and-error approach, especially if medication is involved. It is possible for the depression to worsen before it gets better, even if your friend is in treatment. If you notice any dangerous or unusual behavior, report it to the person's therapist.
Step 7
Take care of yourself. Becoming stressed or overwhelmed will make you less able to properly support your friend during this difficult time. Make time for pleasurable, stress-free activities. Consider talking to a counselor yourself if dealing with the person's depression becomes difficult.
Tips and Warnings
- Many organizations offer support groups or education for people with depression and their loved ones. Check with local hospitals, county health departments, doctors and therapists for referrals for these types of programs.
- Report all suicidal comments to a mental health professional immediately.
References
- National Institute of Mental Health: The Numbers Count: Mental Disorders in America
- MayoClinic.com: Depression: Supporting a Family Member or Friend
- Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance: Helping Someone With A Mood Disorder
- Psych Central: How Can I Help A Loved One With Depression?
- HelpGuide.org: Taking Care of Yourself While Supporting a Loved One
