If your child asks about her own ADHD or that of another child, be honest in your answer. Children know when you are not being direct or open about a topic. Know the topic. Explain what ADHD stands for: attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Then, simplify the topic to the child's age level.
Step 1
Be informed on ADHD before questions arise. You don't want to be stumbling over your words when questions come up. Tell her that children with ADHD struggle with paying attention, being still or waiting their turn. Kids with ADHD are also overly active and impulsive.
Step 2
Practice discussing the disorder with adults so that it becomes easier to explain to children. Talk about ADHD with a spouse, other parents, family members, school counselors or doctors so that you are used to openly discussing it.
Step 3
Know the labels you want to avoid. If you do not want to refer to a child with ADHD as "hyper" or "special needs," then pick words that are fitting to you. You may explain that while there is a name for the disorder, it is not to put the child into a box or limit anyone's abilities.
Step 4
Explain to children how ADHD can be overcome. While it may be easy for some children to wait their turn or sit still and listen, ADHD children have to work twice as hard at it. You can use the example of trying to type on a computer with gloves or ride a bike while wearing heavy weights--you can do these things, but extra effort is required.
Step 5
Adapt your explanations depending on the age of the children. You may need to have several follow-up conversations about ADHD as your child matures.
Step 6
Ask questions about ADHD with your child to measure his comprehension. Have him explain it back to you. Let him know he can always ask more about ADHD as he needs. Keep the conversation open.
