With daily pressures of work, family obligations, commutes and household chores, for many women sex tends to fall to the bottom of the list. Sometimes time is the culprit, but sometimes it's simply because of mental or physical exhaustion. Bodily changes such as menopause or the effects of childbirth may be a little harder to address without medical intervention. If you're just not feeling in the mood as much as you used to, try some natural methods for increasing your sex drive.
Step 1
Get active. Physical inactivity breeds mental inactivity. Because sex is as much about mental connections as it is about physical connections, it's important to increase and maintain a fairly active energy level.
Step 2
Target your eating. Eat more fruits and vegetables that are rich in vitamins and minerals (e.g., green vegetables, such as kale or spinach, and foods rich in antioxidants, such as blueberries and carrots). For more examples, see the References section below.
Step 3
Take more vitamins. In addition to your daily multivitamin, take additional supplements. Vitamin E, vitamin B and zinc have all been proved to aid in the increase of libido.
Step 4
De-stress. Stress is a mental block. It is difficult to feel sensual when you're worrying about other things. Make relaxation a regular part of your day. Don't think about anything but relaxing and spending some quality time with your partner.
Step 5
Reconnect with your sensuality. It is often easy to fall into a habit of defining ourselves by what we do: manager, wife, mother, PTA president, book club organizer. Leave your titles at the door and spend some time redefining your sensual self. Sex is the manifestation of your sensuality. Love your body regardless of how you wish it looked.
Tips and Warnings
- Think about the times when you really enjoyed sex with your partner in order to find a "formula" for what allows you to feel sexual. What were the circumstances? Were you at home? What day was it (i.e., weekday versus weekend)? What time of day was it? How did you feel mentally and physically?
- Don't be afraid to experiment. Be spontaneous. Sometimes you just need a different experience to reinvigorate your sex life.
