Although it's uncomfortable, we do encounter people in our lives who have an issue with telling the truth. It doesn't make them a bad person because it is often the result of an inability to address situations that may be challenging to them. Helping a pathological liar takes some courage, especially if the liar is someone close to you.
Step 1
Think about the person who needs help. Be sure that you are comfortable with addressing him about his lying.
Step 2
Be honest with him about how his lying makes you feel.
Step 3
Set a boundary that contains a consequence for if the lies continue. Be sure it is a consequence that is enforceable and one that you will stick to.
Step 4
Offer support for helping them find the source of their inability to tell the truth. For instance, he may lie only in situations where he feels inadequate.
Tips and Warnings
- Be assertive. Communicate firmly but be kind. Offering some perspective on how her lying affects others is an impactful way to motivate her to change. Pathological lying is not a mental health disorder; however, you can encourage the person to seek help to find out more about why she feels compelled to lie.
- Be prepared for some resistance. It can be difficult for someone to own up to a behavior that she thinks is okay. Hold your ground on setting your boundary and consequence. Consider seeking support from a therapist, counselor or clergy to help you help the pathological liar.
