It can be difficult to watch someone you care about struggle with weight. You want to help, but know there is really nothing you can do until he or she decides the time is right. Offering unsolicited advice and information will seem like you are pressuring and may cause damage to your friendship, but at the same time leaving the matter alone could end up causing her serious health problems in the future. There is a fine line between being a good friend and being overbearing. Luckily, there a re a few steps you can follow to help her and keep your friendship intact.
Step 1
Lead by example. Become a living example of what you want your friend to be. Write down all the things your hope for his weight loss includes, and make the same changes in your own life. Don't be pushy and don't make unwanted suggestions. Just let him see what you are doing and how beneficial it is to your life.
Step 2
Explain how much your friendship means to you and that you are always there if she needs anything. According to psychologist Dr. Howard Rankin, it is hard to make someone do something they don't want to do, but you can set up an environment where she will be supported. Sometimes just knowing there is someone else in her corner will be enough for her to decide to take action.
Step 3
Offer alternatives instead of criticizing his choices. Chances are, your friend is overweight because of poor nutritional choices and lack of exercise. Refrain from judging and criticizing his choices and instead show him alternatives that are just as appealing. This could mean a physical challenge such as a walk or bike ride instead of driving, or a suggestion to try and cook your favorite restaurant foods with healthier ingredients.
Step 4
Encourage your friend every step of the way. When she does decide to take action, there will be bumps in the road. Offer gentle encouragement without being pushy or preachy. If she feels like she will be ridiculed when she makes mistakes, she will hide them from you and revert back to her old ways.
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