Emotional support can be invaluable to a loved one who is going through difficult times. When dealing with death, divorce, job loss or other stressful situations, sometimes it is just too much to do it alone. To have someone there to help hold you up when you need it makes any situation a little easier to bear. There may be times when you want to be emotionally supportive but aren't sure how to go about it. Following a few easy guidelines will help you figure it out.
Step 1
Speak openly and honestly about how you feel. Be upfront and tell him or her that you are there whenever they need you. Reinforce this point periodically so it remains fresh in their mind at all times.
Step 2
Utilize the power of touch to let them know you care. If it's your romantic partner, hold hands and embrace more often than normal. If a friend, a gentle squeeze on the shoulder or neck or any kind of casual physical contact will reinforce your feelings and let them know you are there.
Step 3
Monitor your tone of voice. To be emotionally supportive, you must display emotion in your dealings. Avoid speaking in monotone, and concentrate on adding feeling to your words. Don't overdo it and seem like you are acting, just project the genuine feelings you already have. Also, do not bring up any negative subjects or put negative spins on anything during the tough emotional time.
Step 4
Show emotional support from a little bit of a distance, being careful not to crowd them too much. In the end, they will have to deal with the problem alone. You are there for support, not to fix the problem. Always be there, but offer the space needed to process what is happening and come to their own conclusions.
Step 5
Buy a small gift. During times of emotional stress, it is nice to receive something just for you. It doesn't have to be extravagant, just a gesture that says you are thinking about them. A CD, book or gift certificate to a favorite store are all good choices.
Tips and Warnings
- If you disagree for any reason, do so in a loving, non-judgmental way.
