According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, domestic abuse, or intimate partner violence, occurs when one partner in a relationship purposely causes physical or emotional harm to another partner. Statistics show that one in four women have been physically or sexually assaulted by an intimate partner, and these incidents can cause victims to suffer from lowered self-esteem and depression. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and the National Domestic Violence Hotline suggest that the first step to ending domestic violence in a relationship is to identify the signs of abuse and seek outside support.
Safety Plans for Victims of Domestic Violence
Step 1
Learn about the signs of domestic violence by reading educational materials or speaking to a counselor. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services notes that it is often difficult for victims of abuse to admit that there is a problem in a relationship. By learning more about the signs and symptoms of abuse, victims will be reassured that abusive behavior is not "normal," and they can learn how to take action to protect themselves. Behaviors such as name-calling, extreme jealousy or control, verbal threats or physical violence are all signs that a relationship is not safe.
Step 2
Seek help from a professional counselor, trusted friend, or local support agency. Victims of domestic abuse should consult with a medical professional, clergy member, or trusted associate and seek referrals for professional counseling and support groups. Experts at the National Domestic Violence Hotline note that it is important for victims of abuse to seek outside support to increase individual safety, create intervention plans, and improve their overall mental health. Abuse from an intimate partner can be very damaging to physical and mental health, and this outside support can be critical to recovery.
Step 3
Create a safety plan, share it with a trusted support provider, and identify qualified people who can provide safe, effective support. The National Domestic Violence Hotline highlights the importance of safety plans for all victims of domestic abuse. Victims can plan to stay safe in their home settings and create plans to safely leave a relationship. This process requires an in-depth careful assessment of possible violence in and outside of the home. Experts from a variety of domestic violence prevention agencies agree that abusive relationships can be volatile and risky, especially when a victim decides to leave. Creating a detailed plan that considers aspects such as protecting children, calling for help and preparing to leave are all critical to safety.
Step 4
Seek legal advice and assistance regarding restraining orders and protective measures. The Women's Center notes that protective orders can be requested by victims of domestic abuse. The guidelines and requirements vary by state, but in most cases these orders prohibit an abuser from making contact with a victim. There are a wide variety of nonprofit resources available for victims of abuse, and the legal resources offered may help prevent continued harassment or safety concerns. If a legal order of protection is violated by an abuser, the victim will have additional resources for protection and safety.
Things You'll Need
- Educational resources on domestic violence
- Referrals for professional counselors
- Contact information for local domestic violence agencies and shelters
- Referrals for professional legal assistance
References
- HELPGUIDE.org: Domestic Violence and Abuse
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services: Violence Against Women
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: Safety Planning
- The Women's Center: Violence and Domestic Abuse - Protective Orders
- U.S. Department of Health and Human Services: Domestic and Intimate Partner Violence
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