Breast cancer affects women every day, MedlinePlus says. When abnormal cells form within the breast, cancer can develop. New treatments are introduced all the time. Among them are an increasing number of chemotherapy agents. Although many women have won their battle against breast cancer, the disease can sap the energy and spirits of even the most optimistic woman. At this time in her life she needs the support of those who love her.
Step 1
Search out support groups for the newly diagnosed woman, the Mayo Clinic advises. When she selects the group she wants to attend, go with her. She needs information about her options, as well as reassurance from other women who have first-hand experience with the disease. This can alleviate her anxiety.
Step 2
Look at wigs or scarves together. If she undergoes chemotherapy, she will likely will lose her hair. Making shopping for wigs or scarves a fun time may bring a smile to the face of the person who has just received the not-so-good news, the Mayo Clinic says. Combine the shopping trip with a light lunch. And when you're shopping by yourself, pick up a particularly pretty scarf for her.
Step 3
Offer transportation to doctor’s appointments, and if she wants you to, sit in on her appointments. This will help her remember what the doctor says, as anxiety can interfere with memory and concentration. Be calm and gently provide simple emotional support by just being there, the Mayo Clinic advises.
Step 4
Give her a calendar and write down the times you can take her to doctor’s appointments or chemotherapy. Put aside time on the day she has surgery and write this date on the calendar together. Place reminders on the refrigerator about times and dates you will visit. This will cheer her and make her feel she has someone who supports her.
Step 5
Help her pack her things before surgery, and wait for her at the hospital, making sure she sees you when she awakens. Drive her home if she needs a ride. While she recovers, help out by getting together with her other friends to cook dinner for her and her family on rotating nights. This can be especially helpful for mothers who are too sick and tired to cook after chemotherapy. You can also make homemade gifts such as quilts or blankets to show her you are thinking of her while she recovers.
Step 6
Allow the person diagnosed with breast cancer to vent as she goes through the steps of grieving, and never patronize by telling her what she should be feeling. She will need to vent when she loses her hair or if she loses her breast. A woman’s self image remains a key issue. Picking out a pretty shirt or outfit together in preparation, will help her feel better when she goes home.
