A loved one's struggle with alcoholism can be an emotional roller coaster for family members and friends, especially when the individual denies that a problem exists. Denial can manifest in several ways and include the alcoholic's assertion that his drinking does not negatively affect his relationships or work performance. Different tools exist to help break denial in someone who has alcoholism.
Consequences
According to Hazelden, a private not-for-profit alcohol and drug addiction treatment center located in Minnesota, allowing a person to experience the consequences of her actions may help her realize the gravity of her behavior. For example, if a loved passes out in the backyard after a night of drinking, letting him stay there instead of dragging him inside to bed may help him realize he has a problem. When individuals constantly help clean up a loved one’s messes and lie for him, it can enable the negative behavior.
Consistent Messages
It is important for loved ones to relay a consistent message. The Partnership for a Drug Free America suggests the message: “We care about you and we want you to get help.” Individuals must understand that the alcoholic individual may deny there is a problem, distort the facts and blame others for his issues. Speaking a consistent message makes it clear to the individual where his loved ones stand on his problem drinking.
An Intervention
An intervention occurs when close friends, family and others come together to tell the addicted individual they would like him to go into treatment. Consequences of not going into treatment are outlined. A trained psychologist or social worker can assist loved ones in planning an intervention that is done in a safe and loving manner.
References
- Hazelden: Breaking Through Denial is Alcoholic’s First Step in Recovery
- Helpguide.org: Alcoholism and Alcohol Abuse
- The Partnership for a Drug Free America: The Family Role in Addiction
- The Partnership for a Drug Free America: Helping Someone Understand They Have a Problem
- Center for Substance Abuse Treatment: Alcohol and Drug Abuse Hurts Everyone In the Family
