Successful family communication helps each member of the family feel respected and important. According to the University of Delaware, communication is the process of conveying our thoughts, feelings and connection to each other. Good communication depends on how this information is presented and how it is received. Learning how to successfully communicate will naturally allow your family communication to increase. The frequency of good communication in your family will help strengthen your bonds and help solve issues before they become catastrophes.
Step 1
Hold regular family meetings in which everyone gets a chance to voice any issues or concerns and where everyone supportively listens. Dr. Robert Needleman, a developmental and behavioral pediatrician, says regular meetings can help families collectively find solutions to an issue or help someone feel heard before a crisis occurs.
Step 2
State problems or opinions with “I” statements rather than “you” statements for more productive communication. “You” statements can put the recipient on the defensive, blocking his ability to listen to what you have to say. For example, instead of saying, “You never do the dishes,” try saying, “I feel overwhelmed when I have to make dinner and do the dishes every night.” A family member is more likely to try and help you feel less burdened when he doesn’t feel attacked.
Step 3
Listen carefully when a family member is voicing opinions, thoughts or concerns. Listening is equally as powerful in effective communication as talking. Jan R. Allen, a certified social worker and councilor, suggests taking notes while someone is divulging a problem or concern so you can remember what was said and brainstorm ideas or solutions if necessary.
Step 4
Make compromise a goal. The larger your family is, the more likely diverse and complex problems can arise. It is important to respect everyone’s wishes, but everyone must understand that you can’t always get what you want, and compromise must be used to find a creative solution that makes the most sense for the entire family.
