Impotence or erectile dysfunction is an embarrassing, frustrating and emotionally sensitive problem in a marriage. While modern medicine has made significant improvements in treatment options, some men may not be able to use these drugs or may be unwilling to speak to their physician. How you cope with an impotent husband may vary, depending upon his willingness to seek help, his personality and your relationship. If the two of you work together, you can retain a fun and loving intimate life, even while dealing with erectile dysfunction.
Step 1
Talk to your partner about his erectile dysfunction. Pick a time and place away from the bedroom, preferably when you're both feeling relaxed. Stay positive and non-judgmental during this conversation, suggests the Cleveland Clinic.
Step 2
Explore other options for sexual satisfaction. He may feel less pressure if he believes he can satisfy you without an erection. You may find that different types of stimulation can help him to get or maintain an erection.
Step 3
Visit the doctor with your husband to discuss his erectile dysfunction. Expect a thorough physical to rule out potential causes, including blood tests and urine tests, according to FamilyDoctor.org. Treatment is typically more successful when both partners are actively involved.
Step 4
Find non-sexual ways to be close. Massage and cuddling can meet both of your needs for physical touch, and spending time on shared interests may help you and your husband to feel close in other ways
Step 5
Encourage him and remind him that there are multiple treatment options. If one treatment does not work, another may. If the problem is physiological, request a referral to a urologist. Psychological or relationship issues may be helped by a counselor or sex therapist.
Tips and Warnings
- Sex toys or sexual aids used alone or with your partner may help you to feel sexually fulfilled when he is unable to get or sustain an erection.
- Keep in mind that impotence can be a sign of some serious health conditions. If your husband is resistant to a doctor's visit, pointing out the potential dangers of high blood pressure or diabetes may encourage him.
