You don’t have to attend massage therapy school to give a good back massage to your partner. Back massages increase relaxation by releasing tight muscles. Massages can be used after a workout, as a stress reliever or just for fun.
Step 1
Have your partner lay on her stomach on a firm surface. You, the massager, should stand or sit to one side of your partner. Drape any body parts that are not being massaged with a towel.
Step 2
Apply a quarter-sized amount of massage oil or baby oil to your partner’s back and shoulders. Oil reduces friction and allows your hand pressure to reach the muscle tissue rather than skidding across dry skin.
Step 3
Use both hands to massage in a slow circular motion. Start by focusing on either side of your partner's spine, then move toward her shoulders once the muscles near her spine relax. Use the base of your palm and thumbs to knead the muscle rather than squeezing with your fingers, which may cause pain.
Step 4
Target any muscles that feel especially tight or knot-like. Use your thumbs to rub circles around tight muscles and knead out extra tension. Begin using light pressure and slowly increase that pressure until you find your partner's sweet spot. Always ask her to give you feedback rather than trying to guess how much pressure she wants.
Step 5
Slow down your hand speed and reduce pressure as you feel your partner's muscles relax. Complete the massage by using your palms to rub out any remaining tension. An alternative way to finish is to use the blade of your hand to chop across your partner's back and shoulders, but do it gently.
Tips and Warnings
- Don't rush through the motions. A slow, steady massage will give your partner a more relaxing experience. Use fingers, thumbs and hands. If you use only your thumbs or fingers, you may tire or feel slight joint pain. This happens if your fingers are not accustomed to performing that type of work, so spread out the pressure until your hands become used to giving massages. Always listen to your partner. Her feedback is the most important element in giving a good massage.
- If performing a massage on a pregnant women, have her lay on her side rather than her stomach. Avoid areas of skin that appear infected, blistered, or have open sores/wounds. Try to avoid extreme pressure on bones. Never massage an injury, such as a muscle strain or tear, and stop the massage if your partner complains of pain.
Things You'll Need
- Firm surface (bed, floor mat, massage table)
- Towels
- Pillows
- Massage or baby oil
