The end of any relationship is emotional and a loss of trust is experienced, especially when the relationship is romantic and you love the person. Trust is hard to rebuild and, just because a bad relationship is over, it does not mean that you are healed. If you have experienced deception or a breach in trust that you give someone, you need to heal from this experience before you try to start a new relationship. There are steps that you can follow to get over your bad relationship and move on to your future with someone new.
Step 1
Wait to get into a new relationship. Time doesn't heal all wounds but it does allow you to reflect on what went wrong in your old relationship. It also gives you a chance to decide what qualities you need to look for in a future partner.
Step 2
Communicate any expectations that you have within your relationship. Talk about all possible scenarios that could cause conflict within the relationship before these issues present themselves. Be sure to make your feelings clear about the topics of fidelity, sex, money, social networking, texting and phone calls from the opposite sex, and any other aspect of your relationship that you find value in discussing. Communication is the key to build a trusting relationship.
Step 3
Find value in yourself. Bad relationships can make you feel terrible about who you are, and this is connected to your inability to trust. If you can't see all of the things that you have to offer your partner, and the world for that matter, you will never believe that you are special enough for someone else to be honest and true to.
Step 4
Remember not to punish your new partner for what your old partner did. When you have a lack of trust because you were deceived in the past, you are being unfair to the person who you are with in the present. You will end up destroying relationships if you accuse without cause.
Step 5
Speak to a professional if you are unable to trust again. You need to have someone to talk to who will help you work through these issues when you see that the lack of trust is affecting your life negatively. If you are recovering from an abusive relationship, support groups can be helpful. Meeting other people who have been in similar bad relationships, and have found ways to cope, can be therapeutic. Don't assume that trust will come back without seeking help.
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