For most of us, the awkward and transitional teen years are not exactly the pinnacle of self-esteem. It's a time of burgeoning hormones, emotional uncertainty and the quest for independence. As a parent, you may find it especially difficult to see your teen grappling with low self-esteem. However, according to Family Education, self-esteem isn't a gift you can simply give your teen; it must be built. You can actively work with your teen to develop a healthy self-esteem.
Step 1
Make praise count. As a parent, you may find that you try to remedy your teen's low self-esteem by handing out indiscriminate praise. This is not a good idea, according to Family Education. Excessive praise may lead your teen to cultivate a sense of entitlement that won't ultimately serve her well in life. Conversely, your teen may "see through" your insincere praise and will therefore be dismissive of praise when you do mean it.
Step 2
Encourage independence. One important task of the teen years is to develop the skills to stand alone in the world as an independent adult. Helping your child build these skills can be the best gift you can give them, reports Cincinnati Children's Hospital. Give your child freedom to make choices, make mistakes and learn from them.
Step 3
Practice what you preach. If you or your spouse regularly exhibit low self-esteem, you can hardly expect your teen to learn otherwise. It's important to model kindness and acceptance toward yourself, as well as a positive overall attitude, reports the Kids Health website. This may take work, but the results will likely benefit you as well as your teenager. You may not realize it, but they are definitely watching, and will take self-esteem cues from you.
Step 4
Be affectionate and emotionally available. Providing a warm, caring family atmosphere will give your teen the security to undertake the difficult task of self-definition and self-esteem building. Be there to listen, and correct negative statements your teen makes about him or herself, suggests the Kids Health website. It's also important to demonstrate your love. Your teen might balk at hugs and endearments, but it is essential that you provide a foundation of love and support.
Tips and Warnings
- Let your teen learn his own lessons. It's instinctive for you to want to "fix" things for your child, but your teen's growth hinges on being able to fix things independently. When it comes to body image, advise your teen to love and accept herself as she is. She should also be receptive to positive changes.
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