Many problems in relationships can be fixed, but broken trust is a problem that can prove to be too much to overlook. Depending on the situation, there are steps to overcoming jealousy. But you should assess whether rebuilding the relationship is the right move before you dive back in.
Getting Over Jealousy
Step 1
Determine the facts of the situation with your partner. Going by what you believe to be true can cause irreparable damage if you're misinformed. Ask him what happened with the suspected other woman. If you can't trust that he is telling the truth, that should be a good sign that the relationship will not pan out.
Step 2
Assess the severity of the situation. A continued relationship is doomed from the start if you're trying to forgive her for something unforgivable. What matters here is how you feel about her actions, not how she thinks you should feel. Maybe it was just a kiss, but if that's cheating to you, then that's what counts.
Step 3
Remove yourself from the situation for a short while. You can clear your head and avoid fighting, but more importantly, it gives him the opportunity to prove he's remorseful. If his words seem empty and unconvincing, earnest pursuit can prove he wants you back.
Step 4
Schedule an appointment with a therapist. You've been wronged and you have a lot of rage. Therapy gives you an expert to talk to regularly, which prevents pent-up and unaddressed anger. A good therapist isn't going to tell you you're right as a friend would; he's going to talk to you from an objective standpoint.
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