The fallout after a breakup can vary widely, depending on the individuals involved and the nature of the breakup. Some people are able to take the breakup in stride, while others go through a significant mourning process, and struggle to keep up with the demands of their daily life. In some cases, external factors, such as jobs, family obligations, proximity to the former partner and other obligations can make coping with a breakup more difficult. No matter how or why you are struggling to cope, you must allow a healing process to occur.
Step 1
Recognize the loss of your former partner. While you don't have to pretend that you've forgotten about the relationship, you do need to acknowledge that it has ended. This will enable you to move on.
Step 2
Allow yourself time to grieve and reflect on yourself and the experience. According to the counseling center at the University of Saskatchewan, you may struggle with a number of emotions, including pain, anger, frustration and sadness. It is important to face these emotions up front. Examine them, as well as the relationship itself, to determine what you want from a relationship, and what type of an individual you hope to be when you become involved again in a serious relationship.
Step 3
Focus on yourself and your health. Take time to have fun and enjoy life. Focus on maintaining healthy lifestyle habits, such as regular diets and sleep patterns, and avoid unhealthy pitfalls like binge drinking.
Step 4
Talk through your grief. Make use of the friends and family around you willing to provide support and help you return to a healthy emotional state. Counselors and/or therapists are also available if you continue to struggle in dealing with the breakup.
Step 5
Practice patience. The counseling center at the University of Saskatchewan recommends avoiding entering into a new relationship when you are still struggling to get over the prior one. Early entry into a new relationship can be confusing, further complicating your grief and acceptance of your loss. You also run the risk of using a new relationship to replace the previous one, without integrating the loss into your life and moving on.
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