If you've been co-sleeping in a family bed and are transitioning your child to a toddler bed, or you just have a defiant child, you may find that you have difficulties getting your toddler to stay in his own room at night. Toddlers can become anxious when separated from parents, especially if you've shared a room his entire life. Make sleeping in his own room an event by celebrating the switch and by being understanding of his needs if and when he enters your room late at night.
Step 1
Allow your toddler to choose her own bed and bedding if possible. Encourage the transition to her room by talking with an excited and loud voice when you talk about the switch. Tell your toddler what a big girl she is for sleeping in her own room, and then note that only babies sleep in their parent's room. If possible, allow your toddler to choose some of the decor in her room, from the paint color to some of the toys and furniture, so she's more excited about staying in her room at night.
Step 2
Begin the process by using your toddler's room for napping only. This helps your toddler become used to the idea of sleeping in his own room during the daytime, notes BabyCenter.com. It also gives you the opportunity to work with him and his fears during the daytime without the annoyance of dealing with a problem in the middle of the night. Frequently make your toddler comfortable sleeping in his own room before you begin placing him there at night.
Step 3
Ask your toddler what her fears are when she won't stay in her own room at night. Even the smallest toddlers can give one-word answers about what they find scary. You could take a trip around the room, showing her what things look like in the daytime. If she's scared of the dark, give her a flashlight to play with at night, suggests pediatrician Dr. Alan Greene. If she's frightened of monsters, fill a bottle with "Monster Repellent" and spritz it around the room.
Step 4
Sit with your toddler for the first few nights until he becomes used to the idea of sleeping his own room. As mentioned in the website DrSpock.com, pediatrician Dr. Robert Needlman recommends you sit in your toddler's room when you put him on the bed. Stay on the floor and sit silently even if your toddler tries to get your attention. Every five minutes, move a foot closer to the door until your toddler has settled down. Then, slip out quietly. Each night, start a little closer to the door until you child is OK with sleeping on his own.
Things You'll Need
- Bed set
- Bed sheets
- Flashlight
- Stuffed animal
