Mental abuse, also called psychological abuse or emotional abuse, isn't any less serious because you partner doesn't actually hit you. In fact, mental abuse can be just as dangerous, costing you your self-esteem, your ability to support yourself financially and even sometimes your life. What's worse is that all types of abuse are closely related, meaning just because your partner doesn't physically abuse you today doesn't mean he won't tomorrow. It's likely you'll never be able to stop his abusive behaviors, and his behavior shouldn't be your responsibility to change. The safest thing to do in any abusive situation is to find a way to escape it.
Step 1
Take action now. Never wait to see if your situation will improve, according to HelpGuide.org. Abusers often apologize, buy you gifts and make big promises after they abuse you. Don't be fooled. This is simply another step in the cycle of manipulation and the abuse will continue.
Step 2
Educate yourself on mental abuse. The more you know, the easier it will be to change your life. Learning about mental abuse can reinforce that the abuse is never your fault or within your control. It also can help you recognize patterns and behaviors that you didn't even realize were manipulative and dangerous.
Step 3
Seek help from a community domestic violence professional. Talk openly about your husband's behaviors and your feelings. A professional can help you figure out the court systems, make a safety plan, find safe housing and provide emotional support.
Step 4
Develop a safety plan that includes ways to leave at a moment's notice, and places to go. Also include important phone numbers and transportation services. Determine safe people in your life who can support you as you leave your abuser. Memorize this list and keep it close to you.
Step 5
Leave in the safest manner possible as determined by your safety plan. While you may feel like you owe it to your marriage or to your children to try to work things out, be strong and remember that you deserve to be safe and happy. Staying and trying to solve his problems is a form of enabling, according to HelpGuide.org, and reinforces his abusive behaviors. Call the police or your community support advocate if you don't feel you can leave safely.
Step 6
Make an appointment to speak to a therapist of counselor. It's likely your abuser made you feel worthless or somehow worthy of abuse, according to "Psychology Today." Speak to a professional to overcome grief for your ending marriage, trauma associated with the abuse and residual feelings of doubt, low self-esteem, depression or anxiety.
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