Puberty is a time of change for families and children alike. Girls typically mature between ages 8 and 13; boys between 10 and 15. Preparing for puberty ensures that your child enters this somewhat awkward and occasionally tumultuous period with knowledge, making it easier to manage the upcoming changes. Whether or not you prepare your child for puberty, he will mature, so it's incumbent upon parents to help kids get ready for this major life and physical change.
Step 1
Talk about what's going to happen with your child, but not all at once. Your child's body will change during puberty; the child may become awkward, as growth spurts are uneven. In addition, deodorant becomes critical for kids at this age as they begin to develop body odor. These changes may seem overwhelming, so talk about them at separate times; avoid having "the talk." Instead, have an open dialogue about the upcoming events to ensure your child can come to you throughout puberty.
Step 2
Buy appropriate support garments, as necessary. For example, for girls, this might mean buying bras well before you really see a need. However, during this time, peer pressure often starts. As a result, girls often feel more comfortable being one of the many girls wearing bras, even if they don't truly need the support.
Step 3
Talk about your experience with puberty. It helps your kids know that all kids go through this, and especially that you've been through it, too. While your experience isn't identical, as each child matures at his own rate, it can provide a chance to talk about how you felt and he might feel. Share embarrassing moments to assure your child that everything will be all right, as this is often a time when kids feel a bit out of control.
Step 4
Remind your child that she will still be the same person, even after puberty. A 1991 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology noted that personality characteristics were enhanced at the onset of puberty. However, the fundamental personality of the child did not change, as some kids might fear.
Step 5
Get a leaflet or book that discusses puberty. The American Girl series has a particularly strong set of books, called the "Care and Keeping of You," that many families find useful for their daughters. Similar titles exist for boys. Read the book together with your child, or leave it in a spot where your child will find it. These books take the fear and half-truths out of puberty and present clear, factual information.
Step 6
Buy products that help puberty go a bit smoother. This may include skin care products to help a child with the changes that skin undergoes during this time. Boys may want a razor or a lesson on how to shave. Similarly, girls may want to learn how to shave their legs or underarms.
Step 7
Show your daughter how to use a pad or tampons well in advance of her period starting. Most girls start their periods about two years after their breasts begin to develop, but the timing varies. Before the hormones start raging too heavily, calmly show your daughter how to use the sanitary product you think she will want to use.
Things You'll Need
- Puberty leaflet or book
- Deodorant
