How To Avoid Crying Over A Broken Heart

If you are just getting over a breakup, and you feel like crying all the time, you're not alone. Almost everyone experiences the pain and emotional turmoil that accompany the loss of a significant relationship at one time or another. You may be dealing with issues such as heartache, jealousy or envy, low self-confidence or even self-loathing. You may be blaming yourself for everything that went wrong in the relationship, and you might feel like your emotions are out of control. It's no wonder singers write so many songs about dealing with a broken heart. Only time will truly ease the pain. In the meantime, you can take some steps to help manage your feelings.

Step 1

Acknowledge your feelings. It's important to give yourself some time to grieve the loss, and in the beginning, crying about it is normal. You do have to deal with your emotions at some point. The first step in getting over your heartache is to fully allow yourself to feel your feelings. In her book "The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: An Uncommon Guide to Healing, Insight, and Love" Susan Piver suggests not being afraid of your emotions and instead, trying to relax with them. Write your feelings down in a journal. Talk to a trusted friend or a therapist, if necessary. If you feel like you're sinking into the depths of despair, however, it may be time to become more proactive.

Step 2

Take care of yourself. If you want to avoid crying over your broken heart, you need to do something to place focus on your self-worth, although the chances are high that you feel like staying in bed and moping. Try to focus on taking good care of yourself. According to therapist Susan J. Elliott, in her book, "Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You," learning to treat yourself well after a breakup can help you to heal and move forward. Indulge in a warm bubble bath, curl up with a good book or watch a funny movie. Make sure to eat right, get enough sleep and exercise. Sometimes, making a change in your appearance can help. Buy a new outfit or get a new haircut.

Step 3

Learn to meditate. According to author Piver, meditation creates the opportunity to transform pain into wisdom. It can help you to gain control over your thoughts, instead of letting them control you. During meditation, paying attention to your breathing, the way your body feels and noticing how your thoughts run away on their own can help you to regain clarity and develop a sense of tranquility. If meditating seems too difficult, try a yoga class. Yoga combines active poses and stretches with meditation and breathing exercises, which may be easier if you feel as though sitting alone is too overwhelming at this point.