When someone is sad or disappointed, the actions of good friend can go a long way. If someone in your life needs encouragement or inspiration, start with small gestures, such as calling to say good morning or arranging a lunch date. If your friend experiences serious or sudden changes in appetite, sleep patterns, energy level or concentration, or expresses thoughts of worthlessness, death or suicide, she might be depressed and should consult a trained mental health professional, according to the American Psychiatric Association.
Step 1
Tell your friend you're there for him. When someone is upset or feeling discouraged, the best gift you can offer is your ear and your time. Let your friend know you're willing to listen to him and offer advice. Tell him in advance that you might not always agree with him, especially if he tends to be being self-critical. Good friends don't allow the people close to them to beat themselves up or maintain a victim mentality. The Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) suggests using phrases such as "I'm here for you," ""I may not understand your pain, but I can offer my support" and "I care."
Step 2
Compliment your friend regularly. This can be as simple as telling her she looks nice or has a lovely smile. If your friend is trying to give up an unhealthy habit, such as smoking or overeating, tell her she's doing a great job and that you're proud of her efforts. Drop casual compliments and also offer deeper statements of support. Tell your friend, "You are a worthwhile person and you mean a lot to me" or "Don't give up. You can get through this," advises the DBSA.
Step 3
Take your friend to distracting places. If your friend is going through a breakup or just feeling blue, getting out of the house can be the best cure. Take him to see a lighthearted film or play, go out to dinner or spend an evening at a hockey or baseball game.
Step 4
Volunteer at an animal shelter, nursing home, school or nonprofit organization. Set an example for your friend by donating your time to help others. Let her know what you've been doing and invite her to come along the next time you volunteer. Often, people who help others tend to focus less on their own problems and feel better for having done so.
Step 5
Bring your friend to social gatherings. Take him to parties, barbecues, art openings and other group events. Introduce him to new people and encourage him to approach others and strike up conversations. If he's shy or reserved, help break the ice by sticking around while he's speaking with someone or when he's meeting individuals for the first time.
Step 6
Encourage your friend to make an appointment with a counselor, therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist if her mood does not eventually lighten. Explain that seeing a mental health professional is not a sign of weakness or mental illness and that a trained professional can help guide her through this rough or confusing time in her life.
