You feel committed to your guy, but are not sure he feels the same. Even if you have asked him if he is seeing other people and he denies it, you can employ other methods to learn if he's telling the truth. In addition to trusting your instincts, observing his behaviors, listening to his words and even talking to his friends can give you a clue whether he is seeing other girls. Overly suspicious behavior, however, can harm a relationship. To continue in your relationship, you and he must work toward honesty in words and actions.
Step 1
Notice if he is being protective or secretive with his phone calls or messages. An unwillingness to share who is calling, or quickly hanging up or silencing his phone, are clues that he may be seeing other girls, psychologist Diana Kirschner says. You might find other cheating clues by looking at his bills, emails and instant message chats, according to Marie Claire.
Step 2
Listen if he makes any mention of feeling unappreciated, according to M. Gary Neuman, a marriage counselor and author, writing on Oprah.com. Men need to feel valued in a relationship in order to feel secure. If your guy shares that he is unsure where your relationship stands or even if you care for him, these could be signs he is or is thinking about dating other girls.
Step 3
Listen for the names of other girls, or one girl, that he seems to constantly discuss, according to Marie Claire. Some men are unable to hide their admiration or interest in another woman, because they are excited about the potential of that relationship. Notice if he especially talks about someone in a different social circle that you share, or about a new person at work. These can be signs he is dating other girls.
Step 4
Strike up a conversation with one of his friends, Marie Claire suggests. Notice if the friend shifts his eyes, has difficulty making eye contact with you or appears uneasy about the conversation. These body language cues could be signs he is uncomfortable, because he knows your significant other is seeing other girls.
Step 5
Observe if his answers to everyday questions seem to be overly long or detailed, according to Marie Claire. If his answer to a simple question like "What did you do last night?" includes excessive amounts of information, he could be working overtime to cover up seeing another person.
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