Marriage counseling can help couples resolve recurring conflicts and master improved communication and conflict resolution skills, according to MayoClinic.com and the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. In the event that a couple decides to proceed towards divorce, many therapists will continue with counseling sessions to support the couple through the transition. Divorce counseling can assist couples in resolving lingering anger and disagreements so that both partners can move forward after the divorce is completed.
Step 1
Seek help from an individual therapist or a peer support group. Experts at the Iowa State University Extension note that acceptance of a divorce and the related changes is an essential step in the transition process. Many individuals may find that therapy or a support group will help them communicate their needs and feelings during divorce counseling sessions.
Step 2
Work toward closure and take responsibility for any mistakes or shortcomings in the relationship. According to experts at the Mayo Clinic and Iowa State University Extension, couples who divorce often get caught in resentment and anger if they don't each take the time to reflect on their individual role in the relationship. The key to moving forward in future relationships is honestly working through the feedback from the former spouse.
Step 3
Ask the divorce counselor for input and self-help ideas. Experts at Iowa State University Extension suggest that a couples therapist can be very helpful in offering insight to both spouses regarding what they can do to make the difficult transition through divorce. For example, a partner who has been overly dependent or enmeshed in the marriage may need to make concerted efforts to engage in new activities or hobbies. A partner with substance abuse issues may need to seek treatment or support groups. By following through on suggestions and feedback from a marriage and divorce counselor, former spouses can use the experience to promote personal change.
Step 4
Keep a journal between counseling sessions and note any important thoughts or feelings. According to experts at the Mayo Clinic, marriage and family therapy can bring up past conflicts and feelings that needs to be communicated. Sessions can be difficult and full of conflict, but as the conflict is discussed and expressed both partners will move towards a sense of resolution. Keeping notes about feelings and reactions will help divorcing couples make the most of these therapy sessions.
Things You'll Need
- Journal for notes
