How to Avoid Abusive Relationships

Overview

Relationships are designed to enrich our lives. They can be challenging; however, abuse is never OK. In many unfortunate cases, it is difficult to know whether your partner has a propensity to be abusive. It is never too late to get out of an abusive relationship, and there are steps you can take to avoid it.

Step 1

Remember that you are important not only to yourself but to your friends and family. You should require the same respect from your partner that you give yourself.

Step 2

Assess your partner's problem-solving skills. Someone who is combative or aggressive could potentially be abusive. A healthy relationship includes the ability to compromise and weigh alternatives on both sides.

Step 3

Set boundaries for yourself around what is acceptable and unacceptable (such as not tolerating someone yelling at you, using profanity against you or other people, using violence in any way, etc.). Communicate these boundaries and consequences to your partner (such as saying "If anyone acts violently toward me, I cut off all communication with that person to maintain my safety.").

Step 4

Take the past into consideration. If your partner has been violent or abusive in the past, you should pay attention to how they interact with you. Be aware. People can change; however, without intervention it is easy for those habits to return.