Even the best parents occasionally resort to criticism as a means of motivating or correcting a child. And while some constructive criticism may be useful, constant criticism can wear down your child's self-esteem. According to Kids Health, providing encouragement and praise will not only strengthen your child's self-esteem, but embolden and prepare him to become more independent. You can learn to use encouragement to inspire just as much cooperation from your kids as you would with criticism.
Step 1
Steer clear of negative definitions. No one benefits from name-calling, reports the Child Development Institute, and if you call your child "lazy" or "bad" often enough, he'll start to behave that way. Instead, make it a point to use phrases on a daily basis that reinforce your child's confidence, such as "great job," and "keep it up." Such praise will motivate your child and make him eager to please.
Step 2
Promote future efforts. Kids Health reports that when you praise your child's achievement, you can also suggest a new challenge for them to try in the future. For example, if your child takes the initiative of dressing himself, say, "Great job! Next time, do you want to learn to tie your shoes?" This motivates and rewards him for continued efforts.
Step 3
Show confidence in your child, and let him make mistakes. Encouragement can be communicated in more than words, as can discouragement, reports Kids Health. If your kid is trying to prepare his own breakfast and making a big mess of it, don't rush to step in. This suggests to your child that you don't think he can do it. Let your child finish the task at hand, and let him make mistakes. He'll learn from these mistakes until he eventually masters the task.
Step 4
Step away from your anger. If your child frustrates or angers you, take a deep breath and settle down before jumping to criticize. The Child Development Institute suggests waiting to discuss the matter with your child until you've regained your composure. When you're emotional, you might express criticisms that you'll regret later.
