Teaching your child the meaning of "no" can seem difficult, especially if your child resists or acts confused. However, this lesson is also important; the concept of "no" provides an essential foundation for child training, and your child must understand the idea to learn proper behavior. Additionally, comprehending your command and obeying you when you say "no" helps ensure your child's safety. For example, if you tell her, "No running into the street," then she needs to know exactly what you mean.
Step 1
Save the word "no" for addressing serious issues. If you say "no" too frequently, explains Brigham Young University, then the word loses its meaning and power. Reserving "no" for major situations helps prevent devaluing the word and helps keep its meaning clear. Additionally, only say "no" when you mean it, and you will stick to it; avoid using it as a general or instinctive response.
Step 2
Explain, specifically and calmly, what you mean by "no." Rather than giving a simple exclamation, tell your child exactly what you forbid; for example, say, "No, don't touch the oven," or say, "No, you may not jump on the couch." Don't yell at your child or spank him while delivering the "no," advises the Alabama Cooperative Extension System. Those actions will teach the child fear and confusion, not the meaning of "no," and those feelings will cloud the issue.
Step 3
Remove the forbidden object or distract your child from the naughty behavior, Kids Health recommends, if she is 2 years old or younger. At that young age, a child is only beginning to learn how to respond to discipline and how to exercise self-control. Additionally, this distraction technique helps teach your child that "no" doesn't mean the end of the world; she can still enjoy other options that you haven't prohibited.
Step 4
Set a limit or consequence, recommends the National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families. Clearly explain to your child that if he disobeys--if he does the thing you told him not to do, or if he keeps pestering after you have said "no"--then a specific punishment will occur.
Step 5
Stay firm. After you say "no," don't back down or change your mind. Otherwise, notes Brigham Young University, your child will learn that "no" simply means she needs to keep begging. To teach your child that "no" is a final response or command, never change it into a "yes," no matter how much she resists or complains.
Step 6
Follow through, advises Brigham Young University. If your child disobeys or fails to comply, then enforce the consequence you warned him about. This teaches your child the true practical meaning of "no." For example, say: "If you do this, then you will experience a negative consequence."
Step 7
Reward your child when she complies or obeys the word "no." Giving a specific compliment helps reinforce the concept, explains Kids Health. Do not just say, "Good girl." Say, "Good job sitting down after I told you 'no standing on the couch.' "
Step 8
Be consistent, Kids Health advises. Only say "no" when you mean it. Every time you say it, stay firm and enforce any consequences for disobedience.
