• You're all caught up!

How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love

author image Shauntelle Hamlett
Shauntelle Hamlett is a nine-year veteran business writer, who has written website, brochure, trade publication, and marketing collateral for industries ranging from music to neurosurgery. Hamlett also specializes in medical writing, and has developed education materials for doctors, medical staff and heir patients. Her publication credits include Unsigned Music Magazine, eHow, Answerbag, Wacom Monthly and justBeConnected.com.
How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love
Breaking up is more difficult when you still love him. Photo Credit Stockbyte/Stockbyte/Getty Images

Getting over a guy you still love takes time. After a breakup, it’s common to experience the same five stages of grief -- denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance -- as people experience after a loved one dies. This isn’t a process that you can rush. However, you can more easily navigate the grieving process by treating yourself with kindness, finding healthy ways to express your grief and surrounding yourself with friends and family who love you.

Step 1

How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love
Regular interaction with close friends and family can help to lessen feelings of loneliness. Photo Credit BananaStock/BananaStock/Getty Images

Get support. According to Greg and Amira Behrendt, authors of “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken,” reaching out to your close friends and family for support while you grieve is instrumental to healing. Feelings of loneliness are an inevitable part of breaking up. Regular interaction with close friends and family can help to lessen those feelings of loneliness and remind you that there are people in the world who love you.

Step 2

How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love
Delete your ex's number from your cell phone. Photo Credit Creatas Images/Creatas/Getty Images

Avoid your ex. Delete his number from your cell phone, block his email address, and block him from any social networking sites you use. You should also avoid places that you considered “special” or “favorite spots” while you were a couple. You may believe that you want to try to be friends, but in reality continued contact with him will only prolong your pain.

Step 3

How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love
Express your grief. Photo Credit Jupiterimages/Pixland/Getty Images

Express your grief. As you heal from your breakup, it is normal to feel grief, depression and anger. Well-meaning friends or family may suggest that you stay busy, or otherwise try to ignore your feelings. But according to family and marriage therapist Judy Allen, ignoring your feelings will only cause them to last longer. Instead, find healthy ways to express them. Talking them out with nonjudgmental friends or family, writing them out, crying or even yelling—in a safe, protected space—are all healthy ways to express your pain.

Step 4

How to Get Over a Guy You Still Love
Look for the bright spots in your day. Photo Credit Digital Vision./Digital Vision/Getty Images

Look for the bright spots in your day. It’s easy to get stuck in feelings of depression, and to spend time obsessing about what you should or could have done differently. These types of obsessive thoughts can lead you to feeling hopeless and powerless about your life. To combat the feeling of hopelessness, try keeping a gratitude journal. Taking the time to note the positive aspects of your life can help you put the breakup in proper perspective.

Step 5

Find positive activities to help you reclaim your singleness again. After being part of a couple for any length of time, it can be hard to adjust to single life. Volunteering for a nonprofit organization, taking a class, or picking up a new hobby are all positive ways to become active in the world again. These activities also provide opportunities to meet new friends.

LiveStrong Calorie Tracker
Lose Weight. Feel Great! Change your life with MyPlate by LIVESTRONG.COM
  • Gain 2 pounds per week
  • Gain 1.5 pounds per week
  • Gain 1 pound per week
  • Gain 0.5 pound per week
  • Maintain my current weight
  • Lose 0.5 pound per week
  • Lose 1 pound per week
  • Lose 1.5 pounds per week
  • Lose 2 pounds per week
  • Female
  • Male
ft. in.



Demand Media